Post by sunshine on Aug 26, 2011 9:59:38 GMT -8
I would like to ask for feedback on a situation I experienced at work this morning. I think it has to do with boundaries and even though this instance isn't related to a POA, I have had the same issue in relationships and want to understand how to approach it better.
I'll give the brief version of the story: I set up a conference call and a co-worker tried contacting me to ask if I could reschedule it due to another team member not being able to attend. I was on another call and saw her beeping in on my other line 3 times. By the time I ended the call I was on, she had left me 3 voicemails within an hour timeframe.
When I checked her voicemails she left, she explained that the meeting needed to be reschedule (1st voicemail), she would call our boss and let him know it needed to be rescheduled (2nd voicemail) and finally that she had spoken with our boss and to go ahead and reschedule the meeting (3rd voicemail).
She was very overbearing and basically took over my meeting that I had scheduled, and the process of rescheduling it.
I was so angry I was shaking. I called her and tried to voice my frustrations but she kept overtalking me and I felt defeated. I operate in relationships this way too. I can't communicate how I feel correctly. I feel like my boundaries are out of whack.
I feel like I acted like such a doormat and she won. I didn't appropriately and professionally communicate my opinions and how what she did made me feel. I tried to really have some self-esteem about me as I spoke to her, but I was terrified of the confrontation itself.
I always do this though. I'm so angry at myself. I am either quiet and timid and let people run all over me, or if I feel super angry (like today), I end up being too angry to properly communicate how I feel. So I avoid...
I'll give the brief version of the story: I set up a conference call and a co-worker tried contacting me to ask if I could reschedule it due to another team member not being able to attend. I was on another call and saw her beeping in on my other line 3 times. By the time I ended the call I was on, she had left me 3 voicemails within an hour timeframe.
When I checked her voicemails she left, she explained that the meeting needed to be reschedule (1st voicemail), she would call our boss and let him know it needed to be rescheduled (2nd voicemail) and finally that she had spoken with our boss and to go ahead and reschedule the meeting (3rd voicemail).
She was very overbearing and basically took over my meeting that I had scheduled, and the process of rescheduling it.
I was so angry I was shaking. I called her and tried to voice my frustrations but she kept overtalking me and I felt defeated. I operate in relationships this way too. I can't communicate how I feel correctly. I feel like my boundaries are out of whack.
I feel like I acted like such a doormat and she won. I didn't appropriately and professionally communicate my opinions and how what she did made me feel. I tried to really have some self-esteem about me as I spoke to her, but I was terrified of the confrontation itself.
I always do this though. I'm so angry at myself. I am either quiet and timid and let people run all over me, or if I feel super angry (like today), I end up being too angry to properly communicate how I feel. So I avoid...