Hi lj , I guess ignore is not the right word.... reward what you want repeated and stop reinforcing what you don,t want. Kids/adults/animals notice when you stop reinforcing them, be it positively or negatively. Kids will be kids, suffering is optional. You are gonna make it, because you care. Ps, you can shape any living creature, yourself and d included.
PS: Salads/veggies are among my top favorites now! Although my mom did not get to see it, I'm sure she'd be happy to see me fit and healthy for sometime now! Oh she's the MOST APPRECIATIVE person I've ever known in my adult life! She always had sincere good words for everyone!
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HO: I have a very strange belief that the dead become us and live vicariously through us. As strange as this sounds, after I hadn't smoked for 10 years, I went back very shortly after my smoke-aholic father died. I seriously believed he was smoking through me! haha Silly justification for smoking, I know!
June, I dont know how to make a blended family work. But I know where to find help. Ivillage has a blended families forum that might help. Or its called step families or something like that. They might offer some practical suggestions on how to make it work.
Or you could do like I did while in Guam. I had to seriously lower my expectations of everything there in order to survive my tour there.
Or you can do the suggestion I have often read. The test is think if in 5 years is any of this going to matter. If not then let it go. THeres a good chance his daughter will grow into a healthy eater in her own time.
I have two picky eaters. One wont eat meat. And the other has Aspergers and has all kinds of food issues. I just let it ride. In time she tries new stuff. Very slowly with all kinds of limitations (food cant touch. Ceriel with no milk. Pasta with no sauce). The other will probably never eat meat but thats ok. She is 20 now and her vegetarianism is her issue.
"Nothing in life worth having ever comes easy" Bob Kelso
I'm telling you, I'm learning that 4-yr-olds are their own little breeds! Their minds change at the drop of a hat. Last Friday my son (4 yrs old) decided he no longer wanted to drink strawberry milk. He insisted on just chocolate. We haven't even made it to the store yet to get chocolate syrup this week. Just last nite he tells me chocolate is bad for his teeth so now he doesn't want that either. Now he prefers to drink his milk straight up, no chasers :-) I'm glad I didn't spend the $$ on choc syrup!
They are some finnicky creatures. Have patience LJ! lol
Tizzy, that's hilarious about your 4-year-old with the straight milk. I actually raised my children strickly when it came to food. Never any chocolate milk (the chocolate syrup has sugar, fat and caffeine), never any cheese or cheese "product," a lot of organic. I used to process my own spinach, kale, veggies, and broccoli too when they were babies and I really ONLY ever gave them healthy options. A little militant? Perhaps. Thing is, the second they went to a kid's party they would get chicken fingers, french fries, cake, candy, chocolate, sodas, etc. So....they were never really denied.
But they're awesome eaters now. In fact, my youngest wants to be a chef. He, himself, packs cucumbers as snacks to take to school. I'm like, you sure you don't want to take a cookie?
The other reason I had to get them used to diverse foods is because we traveled a lot. When we go to Spain, for example, they eat calamarie, chickpea and lentil soups, veal, eggplant, etc. Not typical stuff I cook at home.
@kitty: I need to keep hearing stories like this. Thank you! I need to be reminded that there are other ways to eat and process the meaning of food. That my way isn't the only way. A very hard thing to learn!
RRR: thanks for the tip! I'll have to check out iVillage. I get some of their newsletters.
LJ, that's great how you exposed your sons to all kinds of different foods. I bet that exposure and exploration is present in other areas of their lives as well, and will serve them well in life.
We got home today and my son informed me he wanted a glass of strawberry milk. I asked him what happened to drinking it plain and he simply said he wants strawberry now and could I please give it to him because he was thirsty and hot. He said the strawberry will help him cool down.