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Post by Healing Ku'uipo on Nov 29, 2011 6:04:22 GMT -8
Hi All, I wanted to share what I think is an accomplishment in my LA recovery. After being turned down by my friend to do my Dating Plan last week. I found the Drama part of me itching to tell people, tell my newest tale of Pain... but this time I took a breath. I really only have 2 Safe People to talk to about personal things like this.( and this board).
I have friends that telling this story too will just add fuel to the Drama fire and it's not necessary.
My old self would have told people at work, most of my friends, shared it at a Holiday dinner. I Over shared a lot!
This time I am spending the time processing the whole situation. I am sitting with the heartache. I am sitting with the Clarity I feel in my mind. ( Yay!) and I am sitting with this Open Hearted feeling I did not expect.
This weekend I was part of a Healing circle I usually sit on the outside of and feel too closed down to participate. This time I got right in there. It feels Like my Heart has been Broken Open. A little more open than before... progress.
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Post by happyberry on Nov 29, 2011 6:23:59 GMT -8
this is AWESOME!
Oversharing, drama, etc. all a big part of this disease! Way to go to set good boundaries!
thanks for sharing this!
In doing so you'll find your relationships improve, as you are more available to others.
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Post by lacypooh on Nov 29, 2011 8:06:54 GMT -8
BRAVO Healing!
Thanks for sharing, I love to see the process working in our lives!
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Post by reinventmyself on Nov 29, 2011 9:07:50 GMT -8
same here . .that's one of the reasons I am here. . again, posting. I typically would run from person to person looking for someone to bounce my story off of. I so desperately wanted feedback from others. Others to tell me that I am OK.
It's a sure sign of growth if we are able to validate that we are ok within ourselves and not always look outside of ourselves for comfort.
Not to say we shouldn't reach out for support. . everything in moderation.
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Post by Havefaith on Nov 29, 2011 10:06:59 GMT -8
Yes, reinvent -- Everything in moderation! This is a key mantra for me, especially as an addict. I need to practice moderation and create appropriate boundaries (love the 'drama boundary', healing!)-- as an addict, I can go over the top in every and any area of my life.
Excesses and no boundaries just feed my addiction. I need to remind myself of this - one day at a time.
HaveFaith
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Post by Healing Ku'uipo on Nov 29, 2011 16:10:27 GMT -8
Yay! One day at a time. I love being able to make a choice.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Nov 29, 2011 19:09:18 GMT -8
Yay! One day at a time. I love being able to make a choice.Choices: Major Milestone in Recovery " . . . relieve me of the bondage of self [will]." " . . . free at last; free at last; thank God Almighty free at last. " . . . happy joyous and free (from AA literature. I cried like a baby when I head the word free. Or my inner child did anyway.) " . . . I am powerless; we are not. ". . . Choices are like valuable jewels. Choose well, and don't throw pearls before swine." ". . . Take your power back." ". . . Choices are opportunities waiting to happen." Love addiction No choice
Recovery Choices
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Post by anaddict on Nov 2, 2021 1:28:05 GMT -8
this is AWESOME! Oversharing, drama, etc. all a big part of this disease! Way to go to set good boundaries! thanks for sharing this! In doing so you'll find your relationships improve, as you are more available to others. I read this thread and I know I overshare a lot. I try to keep out of drama from others, but did not realize that oversharing means no good boudaries. I share all kinds of information. For some reason I thought that if it is the truth and you do not share it it is hiding it and that is not allowed. I see now that that is a childhood 'rule'. We were not allowed to keep our own thoughts to ouselves. This is an eye opener to me! This is going in my recovery plan. Thanks !
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