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Post by happyberry on Jan 3, 2012 10:45:12 GMT -8
I don't even need to read this whole message.
GET OUT NOW
bye bye
no more
breaking the law
not ok.
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Post by havefaith on Jan 3, 2012 11:43:13 GMT -8
Leave now. He is a predator. He will damage you. I guarantee it. Any progress you think you have made is an illusion. I know. PM me if you want and I will give you my experience. I don't want to get into it here.
HaveFaith
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Post by bklynrn on Jan 3, 2012 12:36:08 GMT -8
HaveFaith...dumb question..lol...what's PM? Private message? If so, tell me how to do that....I would LOVE to hear your experience for sure.
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Post by Loving My Life on Jan 3, 2012 12:38:27 GMT -8
im not havefaith, but yes "PM" is private or personal message. hope this helps
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Post by Healing Ku'uipo on Jan 3, 2012 12:58:58 GMT -8
Leave.
This therapy isnt working.
Go find a woman Therapist.
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Post by sillypoppet on Jan 3, 2012 14:43:37 GMT -8
Do you think that you have developed an addiction to this guy?
What is holding you back from ending therapy with him? It seems like you know it's not healthy, but yet you are still in a dilemma about it.
What would happen if you were to get a different therapist?
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Post by havefaith on Jan 3, 2012 18:21:54 GMT -8
If he has sexual feelings towards you, and he is married, and he is in a position of authority (as your therapist), believe me, starting over with a new therapist is nothing compared to the damage this man could do (and is currently doing) to your soul and psyche.
HaveFaith
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Post by margot on Jan 3, 2012 19:06:53 GMT -8
You must get away from this man (therapist?)..............he is hurting your emotions and your mind. It's like taking poison instead of medicine...........I'm sure you understand that.
Please women............seek women therapists! And men seek men therapists...........you're asking for lots of trouble otherwise.
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Post by ramaplame on Jan 3, 2012 21:08:42 GMT -8
You know what to do. Get out of there. Keep posting so we know how you're doing! But, please -- get out of there. You do not need his "treatment." He is hurting you.
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Post by Loving My Life on Jan 4, 2012 3:33:07 GMT -8
brklynn, I so glad to hear your getting a new therapist. You are the most important person. Good luck with your new therapist. And it is progress that you realized he was crossing your boundaries.
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Post by margot on Jan 4, 2012 6:13:20 GMT -8
bklynrnn..........that's great news that you're going to see a new one. I know it's hard changing therapists...........once I had to go thru 4 of them in 5 weeks in order to find one I was happy and comfortable with. Here's a hint.........Life is hard, nothing is easy but it's worth it to persevere, just keep going, don't quit. You're on a good path now.........new therapist and all these wonderful women in this group here. You have people who care about you and will not lie to you.
I'm so sorry you have had to go thru that confusing, emotional time lately. It is something you will have to discuss with a trusted person in order to resolve the issues surrounding it. When you're ready to. Meanwhile, continue doing things that help you feel better and happy. Don't forget the fun stuff.
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Post by margot on Jan 5, 2012 17:49:54 GMT -8
You are welcome bklynrn, and I also thank you.
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Post by bklynrn on Jan 10, 2012 2:15:29 GMT -8
Just an update....Went and met a female therapist yesterday. She seemed OK...I gave her a basic overveiw of my history and said I was really here to interview her. She seemed ok about that and understood that. I made an appointment with another woman in 2 weeks though. I didn't get much of a feel from this one. She seemed kinda flat. Not that her job is to entertain me or something but I just didnt feel much....
On another note...I joined a 5 week seminar/class at a Healing center here in NY. It's a sexual/spiritual healing class and they use a technique called Focalizing...Focalizing is based on Peter Levine's Somatic experiencing. Went to the first of 5 classes last night.....seems really promising . Great group of people with a variety of past trauma. The group I sat with seemed very authentic with their feelings and I expressed my own discomfort about the newness of the class....fear of the unknown and why I was there...just felt good to not care at that moment what everyone else was thinking. I allowed myself to be vulnerable which is not always easy for me. More to come about this class and the techniques. Thanks for reading
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Post by herenow on Jan 10, 2012 9:18:17 GMT -8
bklynrn
I am sorry I missed this whole thread but so glad you did the right thing and took care of yourself. Will look forward to hearing about the focalizing technique. I like Peter Levine's work and have benefited from it.
Sounds like you are taking really good care of yourself!
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Post by Bo on Jan 13, 2012 1:45:00 GMT -8
bklynrn, what a relief to read that you left the male therapist. Good for you. Please don't look back! Your own intuition was right and it's usually a good idea to follow our gut instincts.
good luck....keep listening to your higher self.
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Post by looking4direction on Jan 14, 2012 12:38:36 GMT -8
I am so glad you acted and did the right thing.
When I saw "footsie", I got so scared.
So many t's will take advantage.
I know a woman friend who was damaged by therapists like that---a psychologist and a psychiatrist. She is still afraid to go back to therapy.
I admire the courage you have to start over again.
It can be done.
And finding the therapy that works for you, too. Very important.
Carol
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Post by brainhealth on Jan 14, 2012 13:26:50 GMT -8
bklynry,
I'm not religious, but I do believe in spirituality and angels etc. You father was looking after you. He gave you a bad feeling about that male therapist for your own protection. You know what, regardless of what we believe, there is a presence in all our lives, whether it's our primtoxic brain or spiritual anscestors. If we are seriously looking for truth and happiness in our lives, apart from this wonderful message board, there are things outside of us which /who leave markers for us to take note of. The problem is, we are often too stressed out to see these markers. Somehow or other, your marker got thruogh to you. Thank God. Delighted you left this predator. Keep posting. There is so much common sense written on this board by the people above.
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