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Post by leadbelly on Jan 14, 2012 5:12:22 GMT -8
;D Hey I'm wondering if you all could tell me you love me - as surrogate loves....so I know what it might feel like....I feel so numbed out...maybe this could help me up and over what I'm clammering through right now LOL ....just a thought.....
I also just took a break and possibly to end a close friendship with a male friend of mine...he's wonderful and makes me feel wonderful (he's gay)...but absolutely runs in the opposite direction when something important happens in my life, or doesn't phone or pickup when something is urgent....these things happen in life for gawd sake....i have lowered my expectation and it's looking like he's a good friend but not someone i can rely on if i'm not 'HAPPY'...so there are lots of holes in my life right now....not feelin' the love anywhere.......
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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Jan 14, 2012 11:33:00 GMT -8
I love you leadbelly....we will love u until u can love yourself...and then we will continue to love you...I absolutely get what u are saying....when i am numbed out...i have to figure out what mood altering substance I am ingesting in my body....and then go from there..... Hey breaks are good...it helps us take a step back to look at the entire picture with our emotions out of it....I have found that what ever i am searching for in someone else...its is something that i lack in myself.....and i cant give what i dont have....I promise you it does get better...I love you...Sun hugs to you....
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Post by Bo on Jan 14, 2012 12:06:39 GMT -8
Sounds like you are going through some pretty trying times, based on your previous thread. More important than anything else is to experiment with loving yourself. The love that will last is the love you have for you.
Here's an Experiment in Love, that has helped me in the past: Stand in the mirror, look into your eyes, wrap your own arms around you, stroke your own face, touch your own hair, hold your own hands lovingly and say these words, still looking in your own eyes: "I Love You. No matter what, I Love You."
I wish you a strong recovery out of your situation. Try not to beat yourself up. Walk towards things that are right and true for you.
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Post by brainhealth on Jan 14, 2012 13:36:12 GMT -8
Leadbelly,
You sound very lovable Leadbelly. But you know what? The is one person who needs to tell you that they love you unconditionally and that person is "You" . I hug you, I love you ., but that will never be enough for you. You are a very lovable person, and you must look at yourself in the mirror and say "I love you Leadbelly".
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Post by bdzc on Jan 14, 2012 14:22:01 GMT -8
I agree with brainhealth and Bo, Leadbelly.
Hell, even Brad Pitt (or someone you think is absolutely lovely) could tell you he loves you a thousand times and that wouldn't be enough. You still wouldn't feel the love because you don't have love inside you for yourself. You need to experience love within you first to be able to recognize love outside you.
So, YOU love yourself, leadbelly. Love yourself, love yourself, because you like anyone else deserves to be loved.
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Post by Loving My Life on Jan 14, 2012 14:52:43 GMT -8
leadbelly, I love you also, take the others suggestions, and do the exercises. hugs yourself, and keep telling yourself, i love you. you are not alone.
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Post by leadbelly on Jan 14, 2012 17:06:40 GMT -8
I LOVE YOU GUYS X'S 1,000 I will try and feeeel what it's like to love myself....kinda dead, but that's a good place to start.
xoxoxoxo
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