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Post by Loving My Life on Jan 15, 2012 7:58:41 GMT -8
Getting people to like you is merely the other side of liking them. What does it mean to like other people? It means giving respect & attention to their opinions & perspectives on life. It means respecting their feelings, attitudes & values w/o passing judgment. or trying to control them. Clearly & simply, liking others means letting them be who they are & celebrating their individuality. Openly expressing fondness for a friend is affirming for both people. Our expressions are gifts that will multiply for us when we've been honest & unselfish, free from ulterior motives. We all want to be liked. And we've heard many times to have a friend, one must be a friend. Its a formula that takes only a simple decision each time we share with another. My actions will determine whether I'm liked today.
This is from my morning meditation. Enjoy....and be a friend to yourself first.
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bdzc
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Post by bdzc on Jan 15, 2012 18:42:21 GMT -8
"Be a friend to yourself first"...definitely. I think friendship is about sharing. I think if we look for friendship we do have motives: we want to give and receive love, company, happiness. I think giving and receiving are just different sides of the same coin, though. It's not like they're separate you know? If someone is giving, there's someone on the other side that's receiving; and to give you must HAVE something to give (maybe a gift from yourself, love) just like to receive you need to give too. I think we all look for validation in people, it's only negative when we focus excessively on that validation. Or when we approach people solely with that motive, only to feel better, only to receive without having the intention of giving. I'm not sure if that's what carolyn meant, but I think we agree on some things I agree with foolmetwice that we need each other for validation- actually, psychologically, we do that as we develop in our early years, in our interaction and recognition of others we form ourselves, so others are absolutely necessary!
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