Post by Loving My Life on Jan 18, 2012 16:26:54 GMT -8
Iam currently reading "Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. I always prided myself on thinking I had high self-esteem, but as I move forward in recovery Im learning in some areas I need alot of work.
On flexibility:
To be flexible is to be able to respond to change w/o inappropriate attachments binding one to the past. A clinging to the past in the face of new & changing circumstances is itself a product of insecurity, a lack of self-trust.
Rigidity is often the response of the mind that does not trust itself to cope with the new or master the unfamiliar, or that has simply become complacent or even solvenly.
Flexibility in contrast, is the natural consequence of self-esteem. A mind that trusts itself is light on its feet, unemcumbered by irrelevant attachment, able to respond quickly to novelty because it is opening to seeing.
And when I read this it pushed me back into my reality with my poa, that I have made the right decision, and I have to stop with the "what if's". It is really not important anymore what he is doing, or who he is doing it with. What is important now is ME. And growing into the person that I want to be.
This gave me a different slant on thinking about my poa and i hope it will help others also.
On flexibility:
To be flexible is to be able to respond to change w/o inappropriate attachments binding one to the past. A clinging to the past in the face of new & changing circumstances is itself a product of insecurity, a lack of self-trust.
Rigidity is often the response of the mind that does not trust itself to cope with the new or master the unfamiliar, or that has simply become complacent or even solvenly.
Flexibility in contrast, is the natural consequence of self-esteem. A mind that trusts itself is light on its feet, unemcumbered by irrelevant attachment, able to respond quickly to novelty because it is opening to seeing.
And when I read this it pushed me back into my reality with my poa, that I have made the right decision, and I have to stop with the "what if's". It is really not important anymore what he is doing, or who he is doing it with. What is important now is ME. And growing into the person that I want to be.
This gave me a different slant on thinking about my poa and i hope it will help others also.
