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Post by luvmyself2 on Feb 10, 2012 17:08:19 GMT -8
You raise an interesting point about the same-sex issue. I have long thought of myself as a bi female, however, I've recently wondered if it has more to do with my love addiction? Like maybe a need to sexualize a connection because I am uncomfortable with platonic friendships and all that goes with them? I don't know. My guess is it's a combination of both. I mean I do believe there are some genetic reasons to be gay or bi, but it's an interesting question nonetheless for those like me who have only had straight relationships but are still attracted to same-sex. I wonder if it's more of a boundary issue than anything ... ?
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Post by Loving My Life on Feb 15, 2012 14:36:17 GMT -8
Well iam a straight women...but love addiction, does not have to have the sexual aspect to it. It is about love....and if we have co-dependent behaviors and we want people to love us, i really dont think it matters who the person is, friends, family, or lovers. We are trying to fill a void in ourselves, and we think a person can fill that void. When we need to love ourselves first, before we can love anyone else.
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Post by sanity on Feb 16, 2012 3:03:15 GMT -8
I have had the same issue. I seem to sometimes get close to same sex friends and then find myself obsessing over them. This has happened only a couple of times. I suppose its something to do with the personality of the other person and what they trigger in me. But yes, it has happened.
Even though you may not identify with being bisexual, its entirely possible that you are biromantic. Some people need to be emotionally involved with someone before they find themselves attracted to them, its called demisexuality. Just saying...
All of those expressions are completely ok. However, addiction puts a completely different twist to any attraction.
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Post by Loving My Life on Feb 16, 2012 15:28:49 GMT -8
welcome sanity, can you go to the "newcomers thread" under the "home tab", and introduce yourself, tell us how you got here, and what your recovery goals are. This way more people will know your new.
Thanks Again
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Post by BunnyEars on Nov 27, 2013 5:25:14 GMT -8
I'm a bisexual woman, married to a man, but my POA's tend to be my female lovers. I have many close, non-sexual friendships with other females. My feeling for them are completely different from my feelings for the women I get romantic/sexual with. I very rarely (can't say never) get crushes on girls who are totally straight. If that "vibe" isn't there, I put 'em in the "friend zone" and I don't confuse the two. My friendships are too important to me to ruin them by hitting on a woman who doesn't want me back.
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Post by torchbreaker on Apr 4, 2014 12:22:11 GMT -8
I'm a bisexual woman, married to a man, but my POA's tend to be my female lovers. I have many close, non-sexual friendships with other females. My feeling for them are completely different from my feelings for the women I get romantic/sexual with. I very rarely (can't say never) get crushes on girls who are totally straight. If that "vibe" isn't there, I put 'em in the "friend zone" and I don't confuse the two. My friendships are too important to me to ruin them by hitting on a woman who doesn't want me back. I am like you without identifying as bisexual (maybe I should, I don't know), but my only POA's have been close friends (less than a handful in my life, not all my close friends - I have many platonic) and the attraction didn't happen until we became close friends. It wasn't like I had a crush on them and then became their friend with ulterior motives. They are almost always already deeply involved with men - so to my knowledge, straight. But something happens between us emotionally and before I know it, I am obsessing and fantasizing and it becomes terribly painful every time.
I am surprised this thread is so short... but relieved to see someone I can sort of relate to on here.
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