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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Feb 25, 2012 21:27:16 GMT -8
luvmyself2....thank u for posting this about your dad...my dad also is narcissistic and all about himself....i cant even talk to him anymore...what is sad is ...that his days are numbered....he isnt doing good....when he is hurting ..he hurts others....he is unavailable to me....always was and always will be....he was in a triangle relationship while he was married to my mother....he is a sex addict,,,,drug addict...womanized...narcissistic...he has no empathy...he is a user and abuser....and he thinks,,,believes and knows that the world revolves around him....wow its really hard to believe that i am writing this about my father.... He really only ever was a sperm donor....he has hurt my family to the point of NC... So i can relate somewhat with your post..and its good u are saying your truth....and setting your self free from the pain...And yes its all about acceptance...once we accept the truth we can heal from it....hugs to u Sun  |
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Post by bklynrn on Feb 26, 2012 2:41:53 GMT -8
Hi Luvmyself,
I know how you feel and coming to the realization of your relationship with him will help you heal...It's terribly hurtful to feel this about a parent but he probably has no clue how much he hurt you...I feel this way about my mother...so much of our relationship hurt me and I just can't connect with her. Unless, I'm serving her needs in some way. Yes, that void is something you will feel and is related to your adult relationships with men but this awareness will help you heal.......you won't change him or change the past but you can accept him and most of all ,accept yourself.
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Post by sunflwrs4evr on Feb 26, 2012 16:02:00 GMT -8
luvmyself2......i find when i am struggling with acceptance...i have to ask myself am i willing to accept just for today....or just for this moment or just for this hour....and i also will read everything i can on acceptance.... I spoke to my sponsor today and she said i have to set the record straight...and i knew it had to do with my father...so i went to the park....and wrote a letter to sent the record straight and i feel so much better..i might read it to her...later tonight....hugs to you...Sun |
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Post by chris on Dec 5, 2013 9:05:24 GMT -8
I understand exactly how all of you felt as a child. I had a narcissistic father and was shocked when I read about narcissistic personality disorder and learned that the traits fit him perfectly. I was that child who suffered and cried in my bedroom wishing I would never wake up when I went to sleep. I was told I would never amount to anything. The emotional wounds are very deep and they have and will continue to affect my life. The best thing I did was to end ties with my father. I never felt comfortable around him a single day in my life. Logically I understand that he had a mental illness in narcissism which there is no cure. He also had a tramatic childhood. I am trying to forgive but I cant quite forgive completely. I just wanted you all to know I felt the pain you did and I hope you all find peace,forgivness and joy in your lives.
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