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Post by looking4direction on Mar 11, 2012 0:46:00 GMT -8
I think I may be also a codependent love addict.
I feel like I have to please my friends or anyone I associate with; I have to be perfect.
If I have a stain on my shirt, if I sneeze, if I have a bad day, I am "not worthy of love".
I have to be in "top condition" all the time; god forbid if I am not, I deserve to be alone.
I am now aware of this and going to work on it.
I think I realized this when I observed how I interacted with my roommate.
i also feel like if I don't help enough or do it to someone's satisfaction, I am also worthless.
Carol
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Post by runrunrun on Mar 14, 2012 13:24:30 GMT -8
Yes I have struggled with this too. And some OCD issues too. Such as the bed has to be perfect with no wrinkles before I leave the house. Like some marine is going to show up and do a white glove inspection while I am not home. Perfectionism is what its called. It takes a lot of work to stop being that way. But its part of recovery.
RRR
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Post by mb123 on Mar 14, 2012 13:36:36 GMT -8
yes I feel that way too  |
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Post by Jacarandagirl on Mar 15, 2012 3:47:09 GMT -8
I relate. It's a shock when I realise that I am my own prison. But the upside of that is I can let myself out, and have done. Life is equally wonderful as it was painful on the other side.
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Post by looking4direction on Jul 3, 2012 16:41:46 GMT -8
thanks for all this feedback.
Carol
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Post by over on Jun 8, 2013 10:52:19 GMT -8
I just think for me that that was all about approval...I started slowing down the thoughts with journaling.......I am good enough as I am..it is what I approve of now for the most part...though I do like to 'show off' a bit and get attention....i think that I really accept my imperfections so much more than I used to......I accept other's imperfections, so why not mine.....I think also because I have had a hard time and was not able to do much about it...and all could see it...I had to get acceptance around it......I accept others much better now too....
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Get up and try try try was my motto but now my motto is STOP TRYING, JUST STOP, and heal
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Post by lostgirl73 on Jan 22, 2014 14:34:12 GMT -8
I totally get this. I push myself sooo hard and I can always list all the ways I could have done anything better. Being in relationship, being a fixer, I can focus outside me, get some freedom from the perfectionist inside of me who I am never, ever good enough for.
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