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Forcing Solutions Apr 24, 2012 5:32:48 GMT -8 RoseNadler likes this

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Post by Loving My Life on Apr 24, 2012 5:32:48 GMT -8

This has hit home with me this morning as I was reading my meditation "Courage To Change"
"When something isn't working the way I think it should I can think about the slogan, "Easy Does It."
Instead of redoubling my effort, I can slow down & reassess the situation. The answer I seek may be staring me in the face, but sometimes I have to let go of what I'm doing before I can see it. Get out of denial.
How many times in my life have I done the same thing: forced a solution? I've tried to zip myself to people & situations that didn't "fit" me, becoming frustrated & disheartened in the process. But I've learned that easy does it. I can take the time to see if I "match" what I think I want before I jump in & start "zipping." My life is more serene b/c I'm not pushing to make MYSELF FIT SOMEWHERE I DON'T BELONG."
"If my plans hit a snag today, I will step back for a moment & take a calm look at the situation before moving ahead."
"Easy Does It" Think about it when you're in a hurry to do something & everything seems to go wrong...You'll be surprised how much this one little idea can do for you."
I had no business trying to fit in where I did not belong.....

One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)

Herenow Elder Member Posts: 727	Forcing Solutions Apr 24, 2012 5:36:51 GMT -8 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Back to Top Post by Herenow on Apr 24, 2012 5:36:51 GMT -8 One of my favorite slogans Carolyn, thanks for reminding me! Easy does it!

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Forcing Solutions Apr 24, 2012 10:37:03 GMT -8

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luv, that is why iam comfortable in the 12 step meetings rooms, i do find alot of judgemental people in churches, and i do not like it. We are not perfect and never will be, we do the best we can, and that is all that is expected of us. If you try to be perfect, your just setting yourself up for failure.
Im just glad im out of denial, and on a minute by minute basis trying to accept all of this mess with my poa, trying now to read positive stuff, letting go, he did not leave because of me, he left because of him. But i know with his immaturity he will pop up again. we can talk but that will be the extent of our friendship. im still angry as h*ll, but that is a good thing.
Im not going to zip myself up with anyone, just to have a false sense of security. Im going back to work tomorrow and get my life in recovery moving once again. im tired of feeling down in the dumps, i need laughter once again. tired of the drama club.
Luv just hang in there, and maybe that is just not the right church, and maybe the 12 step rooms is where you need to be right now. Dont beat yourself up.

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One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)

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Forcing Solutions Apr 26, 2012 14:37:11 GMT -8

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Post by Loving My Life on Apr 26, 2012 14:37:11 GMT -8

luv, yes be real careful with that situation. But i know you will do what is best for you in this situation. If it makes you feel any better, i did not go to my meeting either, but iam going to a anniv tomorrow night. I have just had the blahs for the last few weeks. i have to recharge my battery, i just ran out of steam. But im on my way..

One day at a time :-) :-). . .We can do together, what we could never do alone. :-) And a problem shared, is a problem cut in half. :-) :-)

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