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Post by bklynrn on Apr 24, 2012 10:24:31 GMT -8
Here's a link to SIA... www.siawso.org I have some of their literature here and really found the 'Reclaiming Our Spirituality' booklet very helpful. |
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Post by Chosen on May 2, 2012 6:10:38 GMT -8
I have some questions for you...
1. What if the incest rape happened when you're a young adult?
2. Why do some victims of rape return to the "scene of the crime" or to their offenders and have them repeat it? Are they not causing their offenders to think it wasn't rape after all since they're coming back for MORE?!!!
3. If you could only turn back the time what would you have done otherwise?
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Post by havefaith on May 2, 2012 7:08:20 GMT -8
The questions you ask are incredibly complex and the answers are different from everyone. My mother fell for a young man (she was 45; he was 18) who reminded her of someone in her youth. For decorum's sake, she couldn't have an affair with him, so she "gave" me to him and lived vicariously through my sex with this young man (I was 15 and a virgin; never so much as kissed a boy). I had repeated sex with him, fell in love (or so I thought) and it was all "Mother-Approved"! At one point, she asked when she would get a grandchild out of the deal.
I have suffered since with repetition compulsion, see a therapist weekly to unravel my skewed view of sexuality, and am determined never to return again to the 'scene of the crime' (which is the basis of my addiction). An excellent book that describes why we go back again and again is "Betrayal Bonds" by Patrick Carnes. I'm in the midst of discussing and going over the book with my therapist.
HaveFaith
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