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Post by overcomer on Apr 26, 2012 15:39:02 GMT -8
I should have said NO! My problem started just because I said yes!
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Post by maxheadcase on Apr 26, 2012 15:40:42 GMT -8
Just say.........maybe....
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Post by Loving My Life on Apr 26, 2012 15:43:41 GMT -8
what was the problem? if that is not to personal.
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Post by overcomer on Apr 26, 2012 16:02:52 GMT -8
Yes you're right. That's funny Max I often used "maybe" but it's "no" that I still need to use more. Thanks :-)
Carolyn I just heard a news that I didn't see coming! Maybe it's my HP's answer. I will sit on it and pray. Thank you
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Post by runrunrun on May 14, 2012 17:48:33 GMT -8
I have a tough time with saying No. A real tough time. And then when I say Yes when I should have said No I beat myself up over it. Its a hard lesson to learn.
A friend in recovery wanted to do some community service by picking up trash in and around hiking trails. He wanted help and of course I said I would. Driving to the park I was thinking, 'what the heck am I doing going to clean up trash that people throw around the park, meanwhile I am drowning in work that needs to be done to my own yard'.
Dont get me wrong. I am all for volunteer work but I need to stop saying Yes to everything everyone asks me to do. Especially during times when I dont even have enough time to take care of my own stuff.
I need to spend more time on this boundary forum. I have a lot to learn.
RRR
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Post by wahinewha on May 26, 2012 12:41:44 GMT -8
I have a massive issue with saying No, and it has definitly got me into the situation where I have suffered with misery at the emotional whims of my POA. Not being able to say no makes me feel resentful inside and belittles my plans of action that I had set for the day. By not saying NO, I did myself a massive injustise, so I will not do this again in my life. My POA had no trouble saying NO to me many many times. Oh well all in the past, glad I don't have to deal with that misery anymore. I walk a path of light!!!!!! yay
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Post by runrunrun on May 26, 2012 13:30:22 GMT -8
wahine, its like learning a totally new skill. Its amazing. I am 49 and just now learning this skill. I heard it said once, and I dont remember the exact words, but when you do something that goes against yourself youre damaging your soul. Or something like that.
So I think saying No is the same as not doing anything that goes against your better judgement.
I will be there are tons of good books and articles written all about saying no.
RRR
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