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Post by Deleted on May 21, 2012 20:14:27 GMT -8
Hello,
I'm just posting to ask for supportive thoughts from anyone who can spare them tonight since I'm struggling to regain a healthy-ish perspective.
Kitty
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Post by Loving My Life on May 24, 2012 6:17:41 GMT -8
kitty, what are you doing to rebuild your self esteem in a healthy way? something inside yourself is driving you to think that you do not deserve to have good things in your life. I do this myself, it is like everything is moving along well in my life, and i feel a need to self-sabotage, why do i do this, iam still trying to figure this out. I believe some of this is due to iam addicted to chaos, and when there is no chaos i think something is wrong, or wrong with me. Iam working my steps again, and hopefully i will figure this out.
I also have a book that i have been reading, and i need to read over again:
Six Pillars of Self Esteem, by Nathanial Braden, and it talks about the six pillars in order to start building our self esteem.
1)living consciously
2)self-acceptance
3)self-responsibility
4)self-assertiveness
5)living purposefully
6)personal integrity
these are the things we need in order to have a healthy self-esteem. Iam turning my focus back to rebuilding my self esteem now.
Hope this helps you also.
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Post by maxheadcase on May 24, 2012 6:26:13 GMT -8
Kitty it sounds like you are doing pretty good in your recovery and are aware of what you need to work on. A friend of mine once said "self esteem.....I lost that years ago" We laughed but in retrospect, how sad. We all could use some work in this department, not just for the next relationship but for our OWN happiness and well being!
Self-sabotage....sounds familiar! Thanks for that list Carolyn! Self assertiveness and self acceptance are keys for myself.
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