Post by gypsysoul on Jun 6, 2012 7:53:35 GMT -8
I'm a little confused of late. I came here in dire distress, obsessive thoughts, compulsive actions, a man gone from my life. I DO have a history of associating with men who aren't exactly emotionally available, and getting into relationships where I do & give ...more than my head tells me is right and fair.
However, between therapy and journaling and thinking, I've realized a few things:
1. I have next to no issues with romantic relationships morphing into friendships.
2. Be it while I'm in a romantic relationship, or a former lover has become a friend, I'm pretty normal, sane, and functional. I do NOT think about him in any way that interferes w/ my day, I do NOT even care if communication happens daily, I do NOT cyber-spy on his life....mostly, I go about my business and feel pretty in control of things.
3. It is ONLY upon the total severance of contact with a man I care about in some way that I go ballistic and off the deep end.
I fully accept that I have a problem (or maybe problemS.) I'm just not sure anymore if abandonment is the real culprit or love addiction...
Thoughts and ideas are welcome!!!!
However, between therapy and journaling and thinking, I've realized a few things:
1. I have next to no issues with romantic relationships morphing into friendships.
2. Be it while I'm in a romantic relationship, or a former lover has become a friend, I'm pretty normal, sane, and functional. I do NOT think about him in any way that interferes w/ my day, I do NOT even care if communication happens daily, I do NOT cyber-spy on his life....mostly, I go about my business and feel pretty in control of things.
3. It is ONLY upon the total severance of contact with a man I care about in some way that I go ballistic and off the deep end.
I fully accept that I have a problem (or maybe problemS.) I'm just not sure anymore if abandonment is the real culprit or love addiction...
Thoughts and ideas are welcome!!!!