...wishy washy, or consistent in your behavior? SOmetimes when we are wishy washy it makes it hard for people to "read" us. We all know wishy washy people who send ten different messages. But how about you? Are you consistent in your messages-as much as you can be? If not, how CAN you be? And what's the VALUE of consistency anyway?
Last Edit: May 16, 2012 3:43:44 GMT -8 by LovelyJune
hmmmm, good question. I dont really know what I am. Sometimes I am wishy washy. I was confronted by my boss a few months ago and accused of doing something I did not do. I let him chew me out and took blame for something I did not do. Then afterwards I decided if I was confronted again that I would stand up to who ever confronted me and NOT accept blame where it is not warranted.
Is that wishy washy or learning from mistakes? I think my character is evolving and growing.
"Nothing in life worth having ever comes easy" Bob Kelso
Post by loveanimals on May 16, 2012 17:11:42 GMT -8
Yes I was criticized by a former boss for being wishy-washy in terms of what I wanted to do. I felt pulled between what she wanted me to do and what I wanted to do, so it seemed that I was constantly changing my mind.
Butterfly Wingz, your message really strikes a chord. A lot of the reason we are not consistent is because we do things we don't really want to do, but we cannot say NO. When we learn to follow our guts and do exactly what it is we wish to do, we remove the wishy-washiness. I want to clarify though that life is NOT all about making decisions for yourself. SOmetimes we are asked to do things we do not want to do. But when we weigh the importance of what we are asked to do (visit a loved one in the hospital to cheer them up even though we don't like hospitals) we can OWN those actions too. When we see the VALUE in what we do, we tend to be more consistent.
Post by brainhealth on May 19, 2012 12:21:05 GMT -8
If there is one thing I have learned it is this. We all need to watch out for the fatal mistake of defining ourselves based on work / career activity. I am in my 54th year, I have tried to live by the values I learned from my Jesuit education. However, my worst depressions in life came from two central areas. 1) Love addiction and 2) valuing myself based on work / career identification. I am almost over 1 and have no truck any longer for 2. I have never been happier- I am beginning to see consistency in my life, but doing what work requires me to do will always pose an incursion - however, I am not allowing this to interfere with my values anymore and I am far happier as a result.
Decide where you want to be, then take the steps to be there. But, most important of all, believe that you can get you there.