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Post by LovelyJune on May 6, 2011 5:19:54 GMT -8
The link below is to the winner of a New York Times short story contest in Modern Love. I thought I'd share it here. It's short and worth the read. And might strike a chord with anyone who has ever had an internet relationship. mobile.nytimes.com/2011/05/01/fashion/01Modern.xml
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Post by tizzy on May 6, 2011 9:23:52 GMT -8
Interesting story. Thanks for sharing!
I've never had an Internet r'ship, and have always wondered how people can fall in love with someone they've never spent time with. Yet I read and hear about so many stories where people say they fell in love online and over the phone and end up married a short while later in real life. I wonder how it all comes together over the long run. While there were red flags when I first met both of my exes, it wasn't until I had spent a lot of time with them that I started noticing patterns of behavior and nonverbal things that bugged me. How can people detect these kinds of things over the web?
I can see how it's easy to love the idea of the person you're chatting with online and on the phone but the reality of having them physically in your life all the time is sure to be much different. I wonder what the divorce rate is of people who meet online and get married after having spent little or no time together. It's like these people are just falling in love with the fantasy of who they think the other person is. I wonder how many people this works out for.
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Post by dorkestbeforedawn on May 6, 2011 11:30:31 GMT -8
Tizzy, it is way different in person. I did this once, and I thought we could make good choices about our relationship because the physical attraction element was not there to make us extra eager.
But a person can lie to you a LOT better in text, and you can realistically video chat only so much when you have other stuff to do. Unless you are like me, then the other stuff galls by the wayside.
Anyway, especially for a person with my shade of illness, I would not recommend meeting or pursuing someone this way.
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Post by skylark on May 6, 2011 11:47:11 GMT -8
Oh me....I wish this girl would have called me before she went out there. It just never works to chase after guys that like.
I know...I have spent my life over sharing, over giving, driving 1000's of miles to see them and generally hunting them down like wild game...
I am very lucky though....it only took about 839,324,875 tries with that to learn that it just does not work. Awesome for me.
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Post by dorkestbeforedawn on May 6, 2011 12:10:40 GMT -8
Ouch. Yeah, that kind of stuff can fail for boys, too. ;/
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