atlast
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Post by atlast on Aug 21, 2012 13:23:19 GMT -8
Yabeeb
I am NO therapist but I have been reading ALOT and have a truely amazing therapist so I am applying what I know of things and just going to throw out my 2 cents worth.
I personally was a rager in my addiction, never allowing myself to feel the pain. Perhaps you are the exact opposite? Perhaps you "fear" your anger and therefor suppress it.
Anyway, I hardly feel my anger lately but have been in a world of pain since going into recovery.
My advice? get a plastic/toy bat and just start beating the stuff out of your bed at least daily, even if you arent "feeling" angry.
Hope this helps
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Post by atlast on Aug 21, 2012 13:37:18 GMT -8
Ok so try throwing ice against the wall or floor- others have said that hearing the shattering helps..
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Post by atlast on Aug 21, 2012 13:39:13 GMT -8
so it is obvious that you have suppressed rage that will eat you up inside if you do not get in touch with it to free it. you can find a healthy way to let it out or hold in and let it come out sideways, into that uncontrollable RAGE that gives you all that shame later. I know that too well!
Good luck
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Post by Jacarandagirl on Aug 22, 2012 8:36:57 GMT -8
Good on you paisley. So cool to read about your way forward. I also found out more about my anger since I started recovery. I can't remember what triggered the awareness but one day I was in the kitchen and couldn't find something or banged myself accidentally, and I realised how angry I was in that moment. Sudden, flaring anger. I didn't really think of myself as an angry person before that.
Since then I have become aware of my anger in those little moments during the day, and I just say to myself "I am angry". It's just good to notice it consciously. The thing I find that I am thinking in those moments is some kind of victim thought, like "I need to do this quickly" when I could slow down, or just feeling like life is out to get me. General victimhood! Since that day the amount of times it happens seems to be lessening dramatically.
The other thing about it that I have been talking about with recovery friends lately is the ability that codependent people have to deny anger. I think that's why it was good for me just to name it. I know I can be angry in a yukky kind of unspoken way, for people who live with me it's not much fun. Denied, but seeping out left, right and centre.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Aug 22, 2012 14:38:59 GMT -8
Rage is a symptom of the Borderline Personality Disorder. See I Hate You Don't Leave Me.Love addict is a self-help term. Psychologists refer to love addicts as Borderlines or people suffering from an attachment disorder. Erotomaniacs are also love addicts. I suffer from uncontrolled rage. As my recovery progresses it happens less often. I call myself a situational narcissist. www.alumbo.com/article/41370-Situational-Narcissist.html
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