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Afraid
Nov 13, 2011 9:55:25 GMT -8
Post by lucybumkin on Nov 13, 2011 9:55:25 GMT -8
My current PoA has not contact me in ten days nor I him and today I am having a lot of anxiety as he is due home at the end of the month, he will have been gone for three months, and I am afraid that he will not contact me when he gets here. I have been stalking him on facebook, although we are not friends, I stalk people that he knows to see if his picture shows up on their friends page, i have convinced myself that if his picture shows up in the top 10 list that he is been in contact with them. yes, most are women that i stalk and i do realize that it is fueling some self fulfilling prophecy that he is not going to call me because he has met someone else and that I am not good enough.
I feel like junk...
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Afraid
Nov 13, 2011 11:36:59 GMT -8
Post by happyberry on Nov 13, 2011 11:36:59 GMT -8
how about starting by stopping the behavior that YOU are doing that's making YOU feel like stuffola? Block him on facebook and stay away from looking him up.
Yes, it'll feel like you're somehow losing control but once you get over the initial withdrawal and be able to let go
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Nov 13, 2011 12:42:44 GMT -8
Post by LoveParis on Nov 13, 2011 12:42:44 GMT -8
Hang in there lucybumkin...I know it's hard. Try to be strong and know that's it's not that you're not good enough. You'll just drive yourself crazy looking at his FB page. Try to do something else to keep yourself busy.
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Nov 13, 2011 14:15:23 GMT -8
Post by calvin on Nov 13, 2011 14:15:23 GMT -8
FB is a curse.... I just remind myself, how ever cr*p I feel now, poking through FB will make it worse... It tells you nothing, leaves you with assumptions, and generally is just a thing to do to stop us looking at ourselves and solving that problem... Its tough, but the withdrawal does ease...
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Afraid
Nov 14, 2011 3:00:32 GMT -8
Post by Jacarandagirl on Nov 14, 2011 3:00:32 GMT -8
Take it from me- every time you resist and DON'T stalk him, you will grow in strength and resolve and in time, it gets easier and easier. I'm also helped greatly by the fact that he doesn't ping me at all.
Either way you can choose recovery! It's so much more fun!
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Afraid
Nov 14, 2011 14:55:43 GMT -8
Post by LovelyJune on Nov 14, 2011 14:55:43 GMT -8
And you will continue to feel like junk unless you stop the behavior of stalking. What can you do in place of stalking? What can you do in place of being on FB? MAKE A LIST of alternative activities and get cracking. It sounds easier said than done. But how's this for a reason to change your behavior: you are TOO GOOD TO BE STALKING SOMEONE. Period.
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