Post by mikaela on Dec 9, 2011 12:34:00 GMT -8
I was recently with a guy, Dean, and I had a relapse.. drank too much and slept with him the first night. Then after a week of obsessing, and being neurotic, he told me that he wasn't the guy for me. That he didn't think he was capable of the love and understanding that I needed. That he was an easy going guy and he needed a relationship that was easy. So I wrote him off. This Monday he contacts me to tell me he wants to see me. We go out for dinner and he tells me that he thinks it could work. Huh? The next day he comes over to my house, seduces me, and leaves shortly after. I hear from him the next day. He is to come over after I offer to support him with his computer, he said okay I'll be free after 3:30 and then he doesn't show. Tells me later that he got busy. I don’t hear from him all day yesterday and I look on Facebook and the f___ er has gone to the states and I’m assuming with another girl.. All this after he says to me that he thinks I’m great, and that it could work. WTF. Thanks, I needed to vent.
I did dodge the bullet on another one though, he was really hot, and very irresistible. . A gladiator body.. oh my. I have never dated someone, ever that I was really really physically attracted to and this guy is gorgeous. Anyways I started to see some classic LAA behaviours, when we kissed I didn’t feel like he was present with me. I could feel his sexual energy but I didn’t like he was present. There were other red flags too. Wanting to see me all the time. Possessiveness…. He is also in AA.. for a second time and just starting the 12 steps.
It would have been so familiar to create a co-dependent relationship with him.. so I dodged one and took one.
Thankfully Dean is leaving for Africa in 3 days so I won’t be going back to the flame.. OH I’m so mad now… he sent me a text message 2 hours ago asking me to go for lunch with him and then when I told him where to meet me half an hour ago he asked for a rain check and that he got busy. Dinner maybe? He asked. I told him that I have plans which I do and then he asked me about tomorrow and I said no, that I have plans.. which I don’t but I don’t give a nuts. I’m so angry this guy does not respect me. His response was WTF, and I said I’m busy I have a life.. and then he said No you don’t .. then ha ha .. ugh moth to the flame..
I did dodge the bullet on another one though, he was really hot, and very irresistible. . A gladiator body.. oh my. I have never dated someone, ever that I was really really physically attracted to and this guy is gorgeous. Anyways I started to see some classic LAA behaviours, when we kissed I didn’t feel like he was present with me. I could feel his sexual energy but I didn’t like he was present. There were other red flags too. Wanting to see me all the time. Possessiveness…. He is also in AA.. for a second time and just starting the 12 steps.
It would have been so familiar to create a co-dependent relationship with him.. so I dodged one and took one.
Thankfully Dean is leaving for Africa in 3 days so I won’t be going back to the flame.. OH I’m so mad now… he sent me a text message 2 hours ago asking me to go for lunch with him and then when I told him where to meet me half an hour ago he asked for a rain check and that he got busy. Dinner maybe? He asked. I told him that I have plans which I do and then he asked me about tomorrow and I said no, that I have plans.. which I don’t but I don’t give a nuts. I’m so angry this guy does not respect me. His response was WTF, and I said I’m busy I have a life.. and then he said No you don’t .. then ha ha .. ugh moth to the flame..
