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Post by sweettgirll on Oct 23, 2011 9:17:51 GMT -8
hi!
i feel very sad at the moment,lonely something is missing..maybe its me, i want to give up its very weak of me to say,but i do feel weak where is the light,always when i feel a little better the sadness comes will i ever overcome this feeling, this feeling of emptiness that consumes me and make me feel so lost and helpless.
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 23, 2011 9:26:20 GMT -8
no you probably want begin to feel better, until you can focus on positives things, and stop focusing on the negatives. i dont think you have accepted the lost of your man, and i believe your still in denial. somewhere you are probably wanted him back. but you have to just be honest with yourself, do you think that is really going to happen? you said you could not give up control, that is self-will, you are trying to control the uncontrollable. but you know what? when you get tired of hurting, you will take some action. no one but yourself can make your life better. you are worth it, and you deserve to be happy.
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Post by sweettgirll on Oct 23, 2011 9:33:58 GMT -8
carolyn thanks for answering like that i feel less alone..
its not that i see a chance coming back together with him its that somehow i see that he is such a special figure in my life will i ever see a man like i see him it seems impossible i know that is not true and that i can love another man but i am blind again can't see it happen feels like i will love him forever:(
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 23, 2011 10:24:20 GMT -8
sweetgirll, you might love him forever, but you still have to move on and love yourself, they call it in Al-Anon "detaching with love". you will have many loves of your life. but now that, that chapter in your life is over, you still have to live...who knows you could be missing a wonderful man because your still wishing. just trying to help you see, and give you a different point of view. i felt the same way when i was your age, but i found other loves of my life, did i forget him? no, do i still have a place in my heart for him? yes...but as the years went on, he did me a favor dumping me, his life went well for awhile, and then he ended up in a bad way, and finally passed away, and i was responsible stayed in school, had a regular job and security something he would have never been able to provide for me. so looking back, he knew he could not make me happy even though i thought he could. so maybe your man did you a favor also. hope this will help you too move on. ;-)
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Post by tori on Oct 23, 2011 13:31:53 GMT -8
hi! i feel very sad at the moment,lonely something is missing..maybe its me, i want to give up its very weak of me to say,but i do feel weak where is the light,always when i feel a little better the sadness comes will i ever overcome this feeling, this feeling of emptiness that consumes me and make me feel so lost and helpless. Sweettgirl (I love your screen name), I relate all you're saying. Totally! I feel weak, empty and lost. It's like I have two voices waring inside of me. One is saying, "Give up Tori, you won't make it." "The pain is too much Tori and you won't make it" Then I have another voice that is saying, "Tori, the pain is only for a little while" "Don't give into it" "You'll get through this Tori". I'm up and down constantly in my emotions. One day I feel like I'm going make it. The next day I feel like I want to die. Somehow I'm pushing myself to do a little bit of something that I need to do. I'm taking it one day at a time. Thinking too far into the future is too scarey for me. Today may be a bad day Sweetgirl, but tomorrow will be a better day. |
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Post by sunshine on Oct 23, 2011 17:38:11 GMT -8
sweettgirl: I'm sorry to hear you are still sad. I know the feeling. I am still having ups and downs as well. Staying busy keeps my spirits up somewhat, but maybe that's because I am distracted. Keep taking it one day at a time.
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Post by sweettgirll on Oct 24, 2011 3:32:54 GMT -8
thank you guys for your support!
i appreciate it alot!
yesterday i cried it helped me a little today i am little confused
one day at a time.
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