Post by magickwomun on Sept 26, 2012 3:54:20 GMT -8
I've been drafting my story. I began with my childhood and opened up some old, painful wounds. I also skipped around in a book about why men cheat and how. I've been re-examining all of my past relationships, especially the most recent 1, the wake-up call. I ran across a website tonight that deeply disturbed me. Here is what I saw on the website and a link to it as well:
"Turn Rejection Into Easy Conversation, And Get The Girl!
Yes, it may sound unbelievable—until you realize it's solid science, endorsed by one of the worlds most respected Harvard psychologists!
What the researchers found is that there are only 8 different 'types' of women. And if you know her type, you will know exactly what words turn her on and get her to fall in love!
And it's so so so easy to read her type. All you need to do is ask her 3 simple questions described in this report!
Sneaky Ex-Scientist Discovers - And Harvard PHD Professor Proves - 3 Everyday, Ordinary Questions That Let You Find Out What Any Woman Thinks About You...
Eliminates painful rejection, because you know what she's attracted to BEFORE you make your move...
Find out what she's thinking...Almost as if you can read her mind...
Know her even better than she knows herself...You'll stand out from the other guys who want her...
Trigger powerful emotions - that get her to fall in love and start 'chasing' you...
Know exactly what to say, in any situation - all because you know EXACTLY what she wants to hear
Radiate Confidence Naturally... from knowing that you can get any woman
"This Loophole Allows Any Man To Read A Woman’s Thoughts As If They Were Written on Paper..."
The best part is you can use this loophole no matter what type of relationship your looking for. Remember, women are looking for both types too, short, or long-term, this just simply works!
It works because all women want the same thing - a guy who understands them on a deep, core level...
And when you use this 'loophole' you are going to read her mind just as easy as you're reading the words on this page.
You're a great guy! And you have a lot going for you... But something that might be attractive to one woman, might be a deal breaker to another woman!
THE SOLUTION: You use 3 easy questions to read her type, then say one of our quick 'attraction boosters' -- sentences proven to make a woman more sexually attracted to you.
Our 'Attraction Boosters' work because they trigger the chemical Oxytocin in her brain - a bonding chemical also shot into her blood when she has an orgasm."
Link - ask3questions.com/femaleloophole.php
This website really disturbed me. It made me think of my latest poa. I feel like he can still read my mind. I recently received a message from an old ex poa and he stated in his message "I know you better than you know yourself". I haven't seen this guy in over a decade! My latest poa also made the remark months ago in a message to me "I know you to a T".
So there is a website out there peddling manipulation tactics, some of the advertisements I saw claimed you could get any woman to become "obsessed" with you. Why would anyone want to exploit someones weaknesses and vulnerabilities this way? Why would someone take another persons right to freely choose based on truthfulness? Doing things like this ruins peoples lives, why would someone want to do that to another human being? To see if they can? To feel powerful? It's so selfish and sick!
This was exactly the type of mentality my latest poa had. What's worse is he would admit it with pride. I was such any easy target for him and he ruthlessly exploited me. I'm so mortified for being so gullible. I don't feel like I will ever trust myself to choose a man again. I don't feel like men can be trusted. I don't know if I can ever overcome these trust issues or get beyond my fears.
I've never had a healthy intimate relationship. I've always wanted one though. It looks like that will never be possible for me now. I don't think I'll ever be able to drop my guard again. There will be temptation, other men will try in the future. I can easily see myself putting up walls, shutting them out and isolating myself. I suppose i can nurture my relationships with other women to avoid lonliness...and keep plenty of batteries on stock, because sex is absolutely out of the question, and i hate that, because I have a healthy libido.
Even after recovery, right now I can't see myself ever attempting any kind of intimate relationship with a man again, and I'm starting to believe that plutonic friendships only exist in women's minds. I'm terrified of ever being vulnerable to someone again. Would it be healthy to go the rest of my life without dating or having sex because of this fear? Would that be ok, if I was otherwise happy with my life? Even after I recover, i don't know if i will ever again have the resolve to take another risk. Like i said, I've never had an intimate relationship, so I don't know what i'm missing anyway and it couldn't possibly be so good that it's worth the possibility of going through this again. I guess this is fear of relapse.
Oh, but the satisfaction my narc poa would have if he found this out. What an ego stroke for him! He would think i can't get over him, when in reality it's the abuse I can't get over. Ugh, he disgust me! I disgust myself, why does what he thinks still have an influence?
www.life123.com/relationships/issues/signs-bad-relationship/working-through-your-trust-issues.shtml
I read this article, it certainly seems to have nailed it, but i just don't think I can face it again, i don't think I want to bother trying. What bothers me about that is that fear is the only reason why, that's why i chose the ambivalence board to post this on. Is this normal in early recovery? Feedback?
"Turn Rejection Into Easy Conversation, And Get The Girl!
Yes, it may sound unbelievable—until you realize it's solid science, endorsed by one of the worlds most respected Harvard psychologists!
What the researchers found is that there are only 8 different 'types' of women. And if you know her type, you will know exactly what words turn her on and get her to fall in love!
And it's so so so easy to read her type. All you need to do is ask her 3 simple questions described in this report!
Sneaky Ex-Scientist Discovers - And Harvard PHD Professor Proves - 3 Everyday, Ordinary Questions That Let You Find Out What Any Woman Thinks About You...
Eliminates painful rejection, because you know what she's attracted to BEFORE you make your move...
Find out what she's thinking...Almost as if you can read her mind...
Know her even better than she knows herself...You'll stand out from the other guys who want her...
Trigger powerful emotions - that get her to fall in love and start 'chasing' you...
Know exactly what to say, in any situation - all because you know EXACTLY what she wants to hear
Radiate Confidence Naturally... from knowing that you can get any woman
"This Loophole Allows Any Man To Read A Woman’s Thoughts As If They Were Written on Paper..."
The best part is you can use this loophole no matter what type of relationship your looking for. Remember, women are looking for both types too, short, or long-term, this just simply works!
It works because all women want the same thing - a guy who understands them on a deep, core level...
And when you use this 'loophole' you are going to read her mind just as easy as you're reading the words on this page.
You're a great guy! And you have a lot going for you... But something that might be attractive to one woman, might be a deal breaker to another woman!
THE SOLUTION: You use 3 easy questions to read her type, then say one of our quick 'attraction boosters' -- sentences proven to make a woman more sexually attracted to you.
Our 'Attraction Boosters' work because they trigger the chemical Oxytocin in her brain - a bonding chemical also shot into her blood when she has an orgasm."
Link - ask3questions.com/femaleloophole.php
This website really disturbed me. It made me think of my latest poa. I feel like he can still read my mind. I recently received a message from an old ex poa and he stated in his message "I know you better than you know yourself". I haven't seen this guy in over a decade! My latest poa also made the remark months ago in a message to me "I know you to a T".
So there is a website out there peddling manipulation tactics, some of the advertisements I saw claimed you could get any woman to become "obsessed" with you. Why would anyone want to exploit someones weaknesses and vulnerabilities this way? Why would someone take another persons right to freely choose based on truthfulness? Doing things like this ruins peoples lives, why would someone want to do that to another human being? To see if they can? To feel powerful? It's so selfish and sick!
This was exactly the type of mentality my latest poa had. What's worse is he would admit it with pride. I was such any easy target for him and he ruthlessly exploited me. I'm so mortified for being so gullible. I don't feel like I will ever trust myself to choose a man again. I don't feel like men can be trusted. I don't know if I can ever overcome these trust issues or get beyond my fears.
I've never had a healthy intimate relationship. I've always wanted one though. It looks like that will never be possible for me now. I don't think I'll ever be able to drop my guard again. There will be temptation, other men will try in the future. I can easily see myself putting up walls, shutting them out and isolating myself. I suppose i can nurture my relationships with other women to avoid lonliness...and keep plenty of batteries on stock, because sex is absolutely out of the question, and i hate that, because I have a healthy libido.
Even after recovery, right now I can't see myself ever attempting any kind of intimate relationship with a man again, and I'm starting to believe that plutonic friendships only exist in women's minds. I'm terrified of ever being vulnerable to someone again. Would it be healthy to go the rest of my life without dating or having sex because of this fear? Would that be ok, if I was otherwise happy with my life? Even after I recover, i don't know if i will ever again have the resolve to take another risk. Like i said, I've never had an intimate relationship, so I don't know what i'm missing anyway and it couldn't possibly be so good that it's worth the possibility of going through this again. I guess this is fear of relapse.
Oh, but the satisfaction my narc poa would have if he found this out. What an ego stroke for him! He would think i can't get over him, when in reality it's the abuse I can't get over. Ugh, he disgust me! I disgust myself, why does what he thinks still have an influence?
www.life123.com/relationships/issues/signs-bad-relationship/working-through-your-trust-issues.shtml
I read this article, it certainly seems to have nailed it, but i just don't think I can face it again, i don't think I want to bother trying. What bothers me about that is that fear is the only reason why, that's why i chose the ambivalence board to post this on. Is this normal in early recovery? Feedback?
