Post by magickwomun on Oct 9, 2012 19:34:03 GMT -8
I have BPD, my ex poa has NPD. I was doing some research earlier and discovered that it is quite common for Borderlines and Narcs to attract one another.
This is interesting to me, but also sad. I look back at my former relationship and see how badly we treated each other and never could seem to work it out.
I always blame him and he always blames me, but I have to be honest, even if he can't be, it was both of us, acting out in different ways.
I'm struggling with so much right now, healing from his abuse, abuses from former poa's, my own disorders (borderline, general anxiety, major depressive), codependency-love addiction, childhood abuse, CPTSD, obsessive-compulsions, ADHA, you name it, the list is endless.
Has anyone else here ever been in this dynamic?
Here is a good link to an article about BPD/NPD couples:
gettinbetter.com/dance.html
There is also a book about the subject, though it is written for professional marital counselors:
This is interesting to me, but also sad. I look back at my former relationship and see how badly we treated each other and never could seem to work it out.
I always blame him and he always blames me, but I have to be honest, even if he can't be, it was both of us, acting out in different ways.
I'm struggling with so much right now, healing from his abuse, abuses from former poa's, my own disorders (borderline, general anxiety, major depressive), codependency-love addiction, childhood abuse, CPTSD, obsessive-compulsions, ADHA, you name it, the list is endless.
Has anyone else here ever been in this dynamic?
Here is a good link to an article about BPD/NPD couples:
gettinbetter.com/dance.html
There is also a book about the subject, though it is written for professional marital counselors:
