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Post by brooklynberry on May 17, 2011 8:41:39 GMT -8
Boundaries
Sometimes, life and people seem to push and push. Because we are so used to pain, we may tell ourselves it doesn't hurt. Because we are so used to people controlling and manipulating us, we may tell ourselves there is something wrong with us.
There's nothing wrong with us. Life is pushing and hurting to get our attention. Sometimes, the pain and pushing are pointing toward a lesson. The lesson may be that we've become too controlling. Or maybe we're being pushed to own our power to take care of ourselves. The issue is boundaries.
If something or somebody is pushing us to our limit, that's exactly what's happening: we're being pushed to our limits. We can be grateful for the lesson that's here to help us explore and set our boundaries.
Today, I will give myself permission to set the limits I want and need to set in my life. From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990,
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Post by LovelyJune on May 17, 2011 13:54:18 GMT -8
DId you mean this for me??? BEcause I really needed to hear this today. I am at the 3 year point of full recovery and sometimes I feel like everything I learned three years ago has evaporated into thin air. I'm not acting out at all. And yet, I am having serious difficulty with managing my life and my kids' life.
I actually fought with my ex-H through email all day and then finally said to kids when they came home, we have to work this out-- ALL FOUR OF US. And so, I invited ex over (with his new wife who had to be included) and we worked out a plan. It's not about us, I said. It's about the kids and what's in the best interest of the kids. And we all agreed and hopefully now, things will go smoother. Of course, no one knows what I'm talking about! I'm just rambling because it feels good. At any rate, I set some boundaries and I broke others. And I feel better.
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Post by Healing Ku'uipo on May 17, 2011 17:58:06 GMT -8
I have set a boundary with Facebook. Work by shortening my hours this year, PoA's and the past few days.... there are a few lame but hurtful( in a self defeating way) thoughts I have, Something mean an old boss told me about the street I live on. I think it every time I drive to my house! And Ive been setting a boundary around myself, where these lame, hurtful words don't pass through into me anymore. I imagine an innertube made of grasses and moss and flowers around me and lame junk put down thoughts aren't allowed in... This passage really helped fortify that today, Thanks for sharing!
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