Post by Loving My Life on Feb 19, 2012 15:28:47 GMT -8
I would like to throw this out here to get some suggestions on how since being in recovery and becoming aware that maybe you had alot of codependent behaviors. What changes have you made? and what are the positive changes within yourself?
Is it helping with your coping skills and dealing with people in a healthier way?
*As for myself since I first got sober 2.5 yrs ago, this was the crux of all my problems.
*I was worried if everyone liked me, now I dont worried if people like me or not, everyone is not going to like us, but I can still be cordial.
*I worried if someone was talking about me, now as long as I keep my side of the street clean, and im not intentionally trying to hurt people, and gossiping about people, it is none of my business what people say about me.
*I would let people use me, borrow money, and cigs etc etc and I did not want to say anything, b/c I did not want to hurt someone feelings, now I set healthy boundaries, and I ask people to please not ask me fo money or cigs, I let people know when something is not acceptable to me, and I remove them from my inner circle of friends.
*I would go against my morals and values with my poa, b/c I wanted his attention. Now I set my boundaries and it is not acceptable any longer for me to allow him to disrespect me.
*I have learned to just let people be, and I dont have to put my two cents in, because people are going to do what they want too, we cant control people, places or things.
Im aware of what pushes my buttons, and I can play the whole tape out beforehand & just not get involved in other peoples drama.
This is also a wonderful way to start building your self-esteem.
What changes have you made?
Is it helping with your coping skills and dealing with people in a healthier way?
*As for myself since I first got sober 2.5 yrs ago, this was the crux of all my problems.
*I was worried if everyone liked me, now I dont worried if people like me or not, everyone is not going to like us, but I can still be cordial.
*I worried if someone was talking about me, now as long as I keep my side of the street clean, and im not intentionally trying to hurt people, and gossiping about people, it is none of my business what people say about me.
*I would let people use me, borrow money, and cigs etc etc and I did not want to say anything, b/c I did not want to hurt someone feelings, now I set healthy boundaries, and I ask people to please not ask me fo money or cigs, I let people know when something is not acceptable to me, and I remove them from my inner circle of friends.
*I would go against my morals and values with my poa, b/c I wanted his attention. Now I set my boundaries and it is not acceptable any longer for me to allow him to disrespect me.
*I have learned to just let people be, and I dont have to put my two cents in, because people are going to do what they want too, we cant control people, places or things.
Im aware of what pushes my buttons, and I can play the whole tape out beforehand & just not get involved in other peoples drama.
This is also a wonderful way to start building your self-esteem.
What changes have you made?