Post by overcome on Nov 18, 2012 17:59:55 GMT -8
I randomly came across this blog and there was something about that just crept me out. This Dad is clearly trying to be 'cute' and thinks he's succeeding...but his whole notion of daddy worship is disturbing. article here - www.pasthisprimeinnyc.com/post/11073330922/swingers#notes-container
"You see, my daughter manipulates, cajoles, controls, motivates, avoids, and embraces me in virtually equal measures. And I, of course, am a glutton for all of it.
Even at a young age, she has been gifted with the skill that drove me nuts during my dating years - namely, showing enough interest to keep you completely invested, but not so much that you take her for granted.
Just as with my dating sagas, I definitely know better, yet still I keep repeating the same old mistakes. What do I do? Cater to her in every way in the hopes that she’ll become a “daddy’s girl”. And as you’d expect, it backfires.
I really just need to start approaching my father/daughter dealings like any new dating relationship. Feign indifference, don’t completely show my hand, and maybe she comes around and starts worshiping her dad."
article here - www.pasthisprimeinnyc.com/post/11073330922/swingers#notes-container
Many people would dismiss my alarm...but why is this okay? I've seen mothers who are just as guilty of it too...they take pride that their husbands have such a special relationship with their daughters, etc. But when the dynamic gets twisted and the goal is for the father to be worshipped (on an unconsious level) not just by his kid, but by his wife for loving the kid...this is when it becomes more like emotional incest.
Manipulating your young daughter (even in cutesy ways) is a d**n good way to set her up for relationship difficulties in the future. So, it's men like this who think they mean well and spoil the kid - who ultimately end up causing a lot of damage.
Anyone else troubled by his article?
"You see, my daughter manipulates, cajoles, controls, motivates, avoids, and embraces me in virtually equal measures. And I, of course, am a glutton for all of it.
Even at a young age, she has been gifted with the skill that drove me nuts during my dating years - namely, showing enough interest to keep you completely invested, but not so much that you take her for granted.
Just as with my dating sagas, I definitely know better, yet still I keep repeating the same old mistakes. What do I do? Cater to her in every way in the hopes that she’ll become a “daddy’s girl”. And as you’d expect, it backfires.
I really just need to start approaching my father/daughter dealings like any new dating relationship. Feign indifference, don’t completely show my hand, and maybe she comes around and starts worshiping her dad."
article here - www.pasthisprimeinnyc.com/post/11073330922/swingers#notes-container
Many people would dismiss my alarm...but why is this okay? I've seen mothers who are just as guilty of it too...they take pride that their husbands have such a special relationship with their daughters, etc. But when the dynamic gets twisted and the goal is for the father to be worshipped (on an unconsious level) not just by his kid, but by his wife for loving the kid...this is when it becomes more like emotional incest.
Manipulating your young daughter (even in cutesy ways) is a d**n good way to set her up for relationship difficulties in the future. So, it's men like this who think they mean well and spoil the kid - who ultimately end up causing a lot of damage.
Anyone else troubled by his article?
