Post by sixguns on Dec 22, 2012 14:29:27 GMT -8
Ive been attempting NC with me ex wife for several months now. With exception of the matter of an outstanding loan which she usually drops off a payment in my mailbox every 2 weeks or so. This past Sunday night she called with an "emergency". She had taken her vehicle with a known oil leak problem out of town. Well the vehicle broke down 2 hours from home. She was calling to borrow more money in order to leave it there to be repaired or tow it back home. She was looking for between $600 to $1500. It wouldnt be the 1st that she had borrowed money. Sometimes she had repaid, sometimes she had not and I had forgiven the debt.
I basically her no this time. That her and I were no longer together. Basically by her choice. And that i never hear from her unless she needs something. She tried making excuses about why had been late with payments before. I asked her didnt she have a boyfriend that could help her with this? She said no. I basically stood firm and told her I wasnt going to continue rescuing each time.
The conversation lasted almost 9 minutes until she hung up. I felt bad and upset. Jusy hearing her voice. Especially because I still have such strong feelings for her. She is so beautiful to me. I felt bad that she was broken down on the side of road two hours away from home.
Since then Ive had this tremendous sadness and feelings of guilt for not having helped her. The desire to reach out to apoligize for having given her a hard time over the phone. Not for not having loaned her money, but for being mad at her over the phone although everything I said was true.
I havent done anything yet. But the craving to reach out to comes and goes with intensity.
Any feedback would be appreciated.
Thanks
I basically her no this time. That her and I were no longer together. Basically by her choice. And that i never hear from her unless she needs something. She tried making excuses about why had been late with payments before. I asked her didnt she have a boyfriend that could help her with this? She said no. I basically stood firm and told her I wasnt going to continue rescuing each time.
The conversation lasted almost 9 minutes until she hung up. I felt bad and upset. Jusy hearing her voice. Especially because I still have such strong feelings for her. She is so beautiful to me. I felt bad that she was broken down on the side of road two hours away from home.
Since then Ive had this tremendous sadness and feelings of guilt for not having helped her. The desire to reach out to apoligize for having given her a hard time over the phone. Not for not having loaned her money, but for being mad at her over the phone although everything I said was true.
I havent done anything yet. But the craving to reach out to comes and goes with intensity.
Any feedback would be appreciated.
Thanks
