Post by goldberry on Jan 28, 2013 23:32:52 GMT -8
I've never had a "real" boyfriend that's lasted very long. I've just had these fantasy relationships that's been in my own head. Or long distance relationships that didn't go anywhere.
I've always lived in a fantasy world, ever since I was small. I used fantasy to comfort myself when I felt neglected or afraid as a child. I honestly think I felt so rejected as a child, I kind of split off from myself and created these magical relationships in my imagination. I don't remember having any good feelings about myself.
This is SO embarrassing, but I had an obsessive crush on Professor Snape, a character from the Harry Potter movies. The last movie triggered it. I was daydreaming so much that I got into trouble about it at work. I like to write, and I even wrote a full length Harry Potter fan fiction novel online!
Then that slid into a crush on the actor who plays Snape, Alan Rickman, and I cyberstalked him like a lunatic.
Then a photographer I knew at work acted like he was infatuated with me, and immediately my crush on Snape/ Alan Rickman disappeared. It switched to an obsessive crush on this guy in real life. Then I cyperstalked him like a lunatic, on FB, you tube, etc...
I'm spending all my energy on these dead-end crushes. I'm not really facing anything in my real life at all.
I'm a really creative person, and I love to write. I recently graduated with MA degrees in English and Journalism, and I'm wasting my time obsessing about unavailable men. I haven't done anything with my education. I've been really scared, I think. Scared to grow up, maybe? Scared to have a real career?
So tonight I blocked my crush on FB, and I hid my Harry Potter movies.
I've got to face a lot of things in my life that I've been avoiding. I have this boring job in a restaurant that I hate.
I've got to find constructive things to do besides daydreaming! I'm also a food addict, and I'm 100 lbs overweight. Somehow, food and fantasy have always gone together for me.
Does anybody have any good ideas?
I've always lived in a fantasy world, ever since I was small. I used fantasy to comfort myself when I felt neglected or afraid as a child. I honestly think I felt so rejected as a child, I kind of split off from myself and created these magical relationships in my imagination. I don't remember having any good feelings about myself.
This is SO embarrassing, but I had an obsessive crush on Professor Snape, a character from the Harry Potter movies. The last movie triggered it. I was daydreaming so much that I got into trouble about it at work. I like to write, and I even wrote a full length Harry Potter fan fiction novel online!
Then that slid into a crush on the actor who plays Snape, Alan Rickman, and I cyberstalked him like a lunatic.
Then a photographer I knew at work acted like he was infatuated with me, and immediately my crush on Snape/ Alan Rickman disappeared. It switched to an obsessive crush on this guy in real life. Then I cyperstalked him like a lunatic, on FB, you tube, etc...
I'm spending all my energy on these dead-end crushes. I'm not really facing anything in my real life at all.
I'm a really creative person, and I love to write. I recently graduated with MA degrees in English and Journalism, and I'm wasting my time obsessing about unavailable men. I haven't done anything with my education. I've been really scared, I think. Scared to grow up, maybe? Scared to have a real career?
So tonight I blocked my crush on FB, and I hid my Harry Potter movies.
I've got to face a lot of things in my life that I've been avoiding. I have this boring job in a restaurant that I hate.
I've got to find constructive things to do besides daydreaming! I'm also a food addict, and I'm 100 lbs overweight. Somehow, food and fantasy have always gone together for me.
Does anybody have any good ideas?