Post by marieparis on Nov 19, 2014 12:31:31 GMT -8
This is definitely my pattern as well. As soon as one guy rejected me, I would switch almost immediately to another fantasy POA. This way I avoided the pain of withdrawl and avoided looking too closely at myself and my behaviour. It also made me avoid trying to fix my marriage.
Just think of other guys, and all the pain will go away.
This didn't happen. The pain of withdrawl was still there as were the problems in my marriage and the problem of taking responsibility for myself.
This is the first time in my life that I don"t have a POA. I am still married and still working on my marriage and now I have to start working more on myself. What do I want out of my life. I don't want to transfer any feelings to anyone else anymore. I need to be selfish on my behalf and take care of me.
It is my life, only mine and it shouldn't belong to any POA.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.