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Post by jonny on Jan 6, 2008 6:11:42 GMT -8
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 10, 2008 12:13:58 GMT -8
I agree. Knowing yourself is very important. You can't love what you don't know. The first thing you do when you are starting to fall in love with someone is to get to know them. So if you want to fall in love with yourself, get to know who you are, your values. your goals, what personality type you are, what you like and don't like. Therapy is a great way to get to know yourself, including your sub-conscious. I learned so much about why I am a love addict (my dad) in therapy. There is an old song that says . . . to know know know you is to love love love you. |
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Post by fairydust on Jan 15, 2008 5:15:01 GMT -8
I have found doing the personality and relationship tests on the Tickle web site has given me valuable feedback about myself. So far it's been all good and has made me feel good about myself. There are a couple of colour tests too that give good feedback on how you are feeling about your current situation. Enjoy!
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Post by fairydust on Jan 21, 2008 3:52:13 GMT -8
I can see improvements to my self esteem over the last six months. Mainly in how I conduct myself. I'm not easily intimidated by other people, authority figures, now. I think this is because I am getting a better sense of who I am and my abilities. And when I be who I really am, the people who have bullied and intimidated me before get a shock. Their reaction is empowering for me.
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Post by Firststephie on Jan 21, 2008 11:16:01 GMT -8
That's interesting because lately I have benn"on a kick" to not let anyone bully me !! And I like it !!
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 21, 2008 17:30:40 GMT -8
That is exactly how to treat yourself. Self-esteem is both an emotion and a mind set. When building self-esteem TREAT YOURSELF as you would someone you love even if you have to fake it. "Act as if," as they say in AA. |
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Post by Firststephie on Jan 23, 2008 10:42:55 GMT -8
OK. Let me just repeat this...
"I like myself..
I like myself....
I like myself...." even though I can be obsessive compulsive.
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Post by fairydust on Feb 2, 2008 3:11:13 GMT -8
I just thought of these:
I like being obsessive-compulsive because it makes me different from other people
I like being obsessive-compulsive because it makes me part of a special group of people who are struggling to learn more about themselves
I like being obsessive-compulsive because I can laugh at some of the funny things I do
I like being obsessive-compulsive because I am never boring
How's that for positive self-talk?
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Post by Firststephie on Feb 2, 2008 12:31:22 GMT -8
Love it, love it , love it !!
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Post by beehappy on Feb 2, 2008 13:42:25 GMT -8
Fairydust, I like that one. It says to me, "I love who I am, I am not perfect, but I am me".
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Post by rosemay on Feb 2, 2008 14:18:06 GMT -8
I notice my self-esteem growing by my intolerance for abusive situations, even subtle abuse. Before I had a high tolerance for abuse and suffering and now I can't stand to be in those situations.
BUT I am still a baby at speaking my truth to power, it is incredibly hard for me to speak something that challenges authority and is going to create conflict.
I suck at conflict too as I am way too sensitive to how the other person is feeling, and way to willing to back down for the sake of peace.
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Post by londonstyle on Apr 9, 2008 9:45:44 GMT -8
Fairy dust that is fantastic!!!!
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Post by jonny on Apr 10, 2008 0:46:41 GMT -8
To build your self asteem !! Until you have the strength think i dont care about any body else but me !! Because at the moment thats all i have spare in imotions to think about and if i use them for anything else they are wasted !!!! me ! me ! me ! me ! me !...... Then when you are fully happy wiith yourself you can take on the world and be less selfish !!!!!!!!!!!!! I had difficulty writing this without swearing..... ha! ha ! jonny xxx  |
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