Extreme jealousy

I experience extreme jealousy. I cant stand my partner thinking somebody is attractive to look at...on screen, in real life...if women wear revealing clothes I get so upset, especially if there is even a chance that my partner may have even seen them alone.

Cant stand him talk to a woman, smile or have any emotional exchanges...even nervous about him speaking with anyone over the customer service.

I'm beginning to think that may be just may be I'm blaming hims or reacting around and to him for things done y somebody else...people of past who hurt me.

Either ways, I try to remind myself that these behaviours and questionings hurt our marriage, that I have to let these things go, for our peace. For my new life and renewed life, for sanity.

And nothing, nobody outside of me, not his feelings or thoughts or perceptions, not my thoughts or judgements about somebody being more beautiful than me...none NONE can reflect on me.
They dont, they wont.
I can live and love myself for who I am and be loved the same way, independently.

I need the help of my higher power.

Thanks