Post by Loving My Life on Sept 5, 2013 5:15:25 GMT -8
Welcome clearskys, I have read over your post, and it does seem like you are trying to correct all your problems at once, and this is not a good thing to do. Take one task at a time, and start saying the serenity prayer daily and when you are feeling overwhelmed.
I am glad you have a appointment with at counselor, be sure to keep this, also are you involved with any 12 step groups? AA, Al-Anon, SLAA, Coda? These groups will help you as well. When we are in our addictions we can not think clearly, so if you can just try to not drink one day at a time, you will begin to feel better.
You also mentioned your poa (person of addiction), if he is drinking as well, this is not a healthy relationship to be in, and this is not about him anymore, your recover is only about you now. I do understand when you say you have abandonment issues, I was adopted as well, and I will always have abandonment issues, but now I have the tools too deal with this, when we are feeling abandoned this is our inner child (little kid) feeling scared and alone, and you (your adult self), needs to let her know that you will never abandoned her, comfort her now.
Please keep in touch with this forum, you will find a lot of knowledge and support on here, and you are not alone, we are here for you.
Keep coming back.
Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can not change,
To change the things that I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
I am glad you have a appointment with at counselor, be sure to keep this, also are you involved with any 12 step groups? AA, Al-Anon, SLAA, Coda? These groups will help you as well. When we are in our addictions we can not think clearly, so if you can just try to not drink one day at a time, you will begin to feel better.
You also mentioned your poa (person of addiction), if he is drinking as well, this is not a healthy relationship to be in, and this is not about him anymore, your recover is only about you now. I do understand when you say you have abandonment issues, I was adopted as well, and I will always have abandonment issues, but now I have the tools too deal with this, when we are feeling abandoned this is our inner child (little kid) feeling scared and alone, and you (your adult self), needs to let her know that you will never abandoned her, comfort her now.
Please keep in touch with this forum, you will find a lot of knowledge and support on here, and you are not alone, we are here for you.
Keep coming back.
Serenity Prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can not change,
To change the things that I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
