Progress Not Perfection-----One Step, and One Day At A Time
Oct 18, 2013 6:05:29 GMT -8
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 18, 2013 6:05:29 GMT -8
I know for myself when I first got into recovery, I wanted everything to turn around that day or weeks following, when I removed my doc (drug of choice), mine was alcohol and my poa. I was use to instant gratification with everything in my life, so far up to the point that I decided to recover. Case and point: If I did not like a job, I would quit: If I did not like certain people, I would cut them out of my life, I was always running from one crises to the next, this is what I was use to, drama, drama, drama. Even after being out of my addiction for about a year and a half I still liked a little drama, but all of this began to turnaround the longer I stayed in my recovery.
I say all of this, to make a point we are not suppose to be perfect, we are suppose to make progress in our recovery, and we do this on a daily basis, and we do this by focusing only on one day at a time, we can do something for 24 hours, but when we try to focus on the future to much this is always cause us to do nothing, and we stay in the problem of what if's, and why not's, and we start obsessively questioning everything, and this takes us out of the current moment, and this is where we need to be, present in our current moment, today.
So I want to share from today mediation in "Courage To Change", (CODA and AL-ANON)
"As we pursue recovery, we may encounter opportunities to deepen learning we began long ago. Perhaps we once learned to detach from a particular problem. Now, months or years later, when we once again need to detach, it can feel as if we've forgotten everything we knew. It's important to remember at such moments that, although the feelings maybe the same, we are not the same.
My recovery matters. All of the experience, strength, and hope I have accumulated is within me today, guiding my choices. I may not recognize it right now, gut I have made progress, and I continue to make progress with every step I take. Perhaps I am learning something I have learned before, I must need to know it more deeply. (I know for me, as I walk this path, I am tested daily with certain situation, and sometimes it can be very overwhelming, and I have to remember, this could be a test from my Higher Power to show me if I have grown, or is there still more work to be done on myself) I may go through the process this time with greater awareness, or turn to my Higher Power more quickly and easily, or reach out to a recovery member friend without hesitation."
Today's Reminder:
Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experience as part of a long term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I can trust that eventually I will learn it so well that it will become an automatic confident, and healthy response.
"The human mind always makes progress but it is a progress in spirals"
Trying to be perfect is considered toxic shame, and this comes from the way we were raised and trying to keep the peace in the family, and if we were perfect everyone would be happy. I have learned with doing a lot of my inner child work, it is okay to make mistakes, and we are going to make mistakes this is just part of life and being human. What we have to learned is to be okay with making mistakes, and we have to ask questions when something just does not feel right to us. We can not keep thinking that if we are not perfect no one will want us, this is not true, this is just your addiction talking.
Please share what progress you have made in your recovery, as of today? Even the little things count, recover is not about big productions, it is the little steps we make that adds up to living a fulfilling life, being happy and content in your own skin, and learning to love yourself first, just the way you are.
To Thine Own Self Be True
I say all of this, to make a point we are not suppose to be perfect, we are suppose to make progress in our recovery, and we do this on a daily basis, and we do this by focusing only on one day at a time, we can do something for 24 hours, but when we try to focus on the future to much this is always cause us to do nothing, and we stay in the problem of what if's, and why not's, and we start obsessively questioning everything, and this takes us out of the current moment, and this is where we need to be, present in our current moment, today.
So I want to share from today mediation in "Courage To Change", (CODA and AL-ANON)
"As we pursue recovery, we may encounter opportunities to deepen learning we began long ago. Perhaps we once learned to detach from a particular problem. Now, months or years later, when we once again need to detach, it can feel as if we've forgotten everything we knew. It's important to remember at such moments that, although the feelings maybe the same, we are not the same.
My recovery matters. All of the experience, strength, and hope I have accumulated is within me today, guiding my choices. I may not recognize it right now, gut I have made progress, and I continue to make progress with every step I take. Perhaps I am learning something I have learned before, I must need to know it more deeply. (I know for me, as I walk this path, I am tested daily with certain situation, and sometimes it can be very overwhelming, and I have to remember, this could be a test from my Higher Power to show me if I have grown, or is there still more work to be done on myself) I may go through the process this time with greater awareness, or turn to my Higher Power more quickly and easily, or reach out to a recovery member friend without hesitation."
Today's Reminder:
Instead of assuming that I have failed because I am learning a difficult lesson once more, I might embrace the experience as part of a long term healing process that requires repetition and practice. I can trust that eventually I will learn it so well that it will become an automatic confident, and healthy response.
"The human mind always makes progress but it is a progress in spirals"
Trying to be perfect is considered toxic shame, and this comes from the way we were raised and trying to keep the peace in the family, and if we were perfect everyone would be happy. I have learned with doing a lot of my inner child work, it is okay to make mistakes, and we are going to make mistakes this is just part of life and being human. What we have to learned is to be okay with making mistakes, and we have to ask questions when something just does not feel right to us. We can not keep thinking that if we are not perfect no one will want us, this is not true, this is just your addiction talking.
Please share what progress you have made in your recovery, as of today? Even the little things count, recover is not about big productions, it is the little steps we make that adds up to living a fulfilling life, being happy and content in your own skin, and learning to love yourself first, just the way you are.
To Thine Own Self Be True