Taking Care Of Ourselves-First Step To Loving Ourselves
Oct 25, 2013 6:30:25 GMT -8
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Post by Loving My Life on Oct 25, 2013 6:30:25 GMT -8
I had just typed up a long post and my internet crashed and deleted it, so I found this and I will share from this mornings meditation, "Courage To Change", (CODA and AL-Anon)...this is a wonderful daily meditation book, and I know for myself I have a lot of codependency issue and it is parallel to love addiction also.
Taking Care of Ourselves...
"Before I could never tell the difference between what was and was not my business. I felt I had to take care of everyone around me until I could not stand it anymore. I usually kept this up until I became physically ill. My body tried to tell me pay attention to my own needs, but I simply wasn't ready to listen. (Our body's will let us know, we need to change, when we are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, tired, all of these are signs we need to step back and focus on ourselves)
Remember H-A-L-T...HUNGRY----ANGRY----LONELY---TIRED...all of these are red flags that we need to take some action in our recovery as well, and we need to try to stay balanced, some days are better than others.
My recovery helps me to listen and learn from my body, my soul, and my Higher Power. How do I do it? I try to check in with myself on a daily basis or hourly basis. Am I hungry, angry, lonely, or tired? If so, I can make a point of stopping what I'm doing long enough to attend to my needs.
When I pay attention to the message I'm being given, I have a better chance of detaching from other people and situations, should that be appropriate. For me, this is the foundation of serenity."
Today's Reminder:
"I no longer have to wait until my health, my financial situation, or my emotional state collapses before paying attention to my needs. Today I can practice becoming more aware of what my inner voice is trying to teach me. I can listen and learn."
"Don't listen to friends when the Friend inside you says, DO THIS"
Listen to yourself, and make your own decision, love yourself, and give yourself the love that you are looking for someone else to give you. Fill you own void, go get a new outfit, get your hair and nails done, get involved in volunteering at women's shelters, or soup kitchens, helping others always helps us, it gets us out of our own heads. So this is a win win situation. And you will feel so much better afterwards.
As I am typing this I have to go back and remember how I felt when I first started on this journey, and there was a lot of clutter in my head, and I did a lot of thought stopping exercises, and I would allow my head only a certain time, like 5 minute and then I would tell my head to shut up already, and you can put a rubber band on your arm, and everytime you think about your poa, and the thoughts are swirling around in your head, pop that rubber band on your wrist, yes it will hurt, but this will also make you become more conscious of your thoughts and it will slow down the obsessions. Even with all the obsessions and withdrawal, we still have to move, and take care of our responsibilities.
You will get some peace, just don't give up on yourself, and don't forget to stand in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love you, and tell yourself how beautiful you are, and do this daily or many times a day, smile at yourself in that mirror. I still do this, and makes me feel so good. And today I can honestly say without a doubt, I do love me.
Taking Care of Ourselves...
"Before I could never tell the difference between what was and was not my business. I felt I had to take care of everyone around me until I could not stand it anymore. I usually kept this up until I became physically ill. My body tried to tell me pay attention to my own needs, but I simply wasn't ready to listen. (Our body's will let us know, we need to change, when we are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, tired, all of these are signs we need to step back and focus on ourselves)
Remember H-A-L-T...HUNGRY----ANGRY----LONELY---TIRED...all of these are red flags that we need to take some action in our recovery as well, and we need to try to stay balanced, some days are better than others.
My recovery helps me to listen and learn from my body, my soul, and my Higher Power. How do I do it? I try to check in with myself on a daily basis or hourly basis. Am I hungry, angry, lonely, or tired? If so, I can make a point of stopping what I'm doing long enough to attend to my needs.
When I pay attention to the message I'm being given, I have a better chance of detaching from other people and situations, should that be appropriate. For me, this is the foundation of serenity."
Today's Reminder:
"I no longer have to wait until my health, my financial situation, or my emotional state collapses before paying attention to my needs. Today I can practice becoming more aware of what my inner voice is trying to teach me. I can listen and learn."
"Don't listen to friends when the Friend inside you says, DO THIS"
Listen to yourself, and make your own decision, love yourself, and give yourself the love that you are looking for someone else to give you. Fill you own void, go get a new outfit, get your hair and nails done, get involved in volunteering at women's shelters, or soup kitchens, helping others always helps us, it gets us out of our own heads. So this is a win win situation. And you will feel so much better afterwards.
As I am typing this I have to go back and remember how I felt when I first started on this journey, and there was a lot of clutter in my head, and I did a lot of thought stopping exercises, and I would allow my head only a certain time, like 5 minute and then I would tell my head to shut up already, and you can put a rubber band on your arm, and everytime you think about your poa, and the thoughts are swirling around in your head, pop that rubber band on your wrist, yes it will hurt, but this will also make you become more conscious of your thoughts and it will slow down the obsessions. Even with all the obsessions and withdrawal, we still have to move, and take care of our responsibilities.
You will get some peace, just don't give up on yourself, and don't forget to stand in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love you, and tell yourself how beautiful you are, and do this daily or many times a day, smile at yourself in that mirror. I still do this, and makes me feel so good. And today I can honestly say without a doubt, I do love me.
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