Post by Loving My Life on Nov 15, 2013 7:13:42 GMT -8
As I am sitting here this morning having my coffee and reading my morning meditation, it is talking about exactly what I am struggling with lately. So I have stepped back, and put the focus back on myself more, and just try and let others be. I know since I have been in recovery, and I spent many many years of my life people pleasing, and I just can not do this anymore, it drains me now. And when I feel like people are trying to change the way I feel or the way I think, that is a red flag to step back, and live and let live. This applies to any kind of relationship today.
Today Meditation:
"I used to feel very hurt if anyone gave me an angry look, spoke in a harsh tone, or didn't speak at all. I've grown enough in my recovery to realize that the look, tone, or mood of another person toward me often has nothing to do with me. It generally has more to do with what is going on inside the other person.
So why do my feelings still get hurt? It occurs to me that my extreme sensitivity is a form of conceit--I think I am the focus of everyone's actions. Am I so important that everything that goes on around me must have something to do with me? (I have to watch this still) I suspect that attitude reflects my vanity instead of my reality. And vanity is simply a defect of character that I am working on changing.
With my recovery members help, AA, Coda, and this forum, my sensitivity to all that happens around me has greatly lessened. I try to ask myself, "How important is it?" When I do carry the hurt, it only hurts and controls me."
Today's Reminder:
Other people are important to me, and sometimes their opinions matter, but I may be taking something personally that has nothing to do with me. having opinions of my own about myself lets me accept other people's thoughts without being controlled by them.
"It is through going to meetings, and coming to this forum and reading and helping others, that I awakened to the fact that what other people did and said reflected on them; what I did and said reflected on me."
I have learned patience and tolerance of all people today, I have learned how to live and let live, and I also know you cant control people, places, or things.
I just wanted to share this, sometimes people thinks their way is the only right way, and this is so not the truth, everyone is different, and we all recovery in different ways. What might be right for me, may not be right for you, and we can agree to disagree.
And yes I do know today, the world does not revolve around me, and this was very hard for me to see when I was early in recovery, and it has made me very humble just becoming aware of this, and I can live a more peaceful existence.
Happy Friday Everyone, go and do something fun this weekend, get away from your recovery for a little while.
Today Meditation:
"I used to feel very hurt if anyone gave me an angry look, spoke in a harsh tone, or didn't speak at all. I've grown enough in my recovery to realize that the look, tone, or mood of another person toward me often has nothing to do with me. It generally has more to do with what is going on inside the other person.
So why do my feelings still get hurt? It occurs to me that my extreme sensitivity is a form of conceit--I think I am the focus of everyone's actions. Am I so important that everything that goes on around me must have something to do with me? (I have to watch this still) I suspect that attitude reflects my vanity instead of my reality. And vanity is simply a defect of character that I am working on changing.
With my recovery members help, AA, Coda, and this forum, my sensitivity to all that happens around me has greatly lessened. I try to ask myself, "How important is it?" When I do carry the hurt, it only hurts and controls me."
Today's Reminder:
Other people are important to me, and sometimes their opinions matter, but I may be taking something personally that has nothing to do with me. having opinions of my own about myself lets me accept other people's thoughts without being controlled by them.
"It is through going to meetings, and coming to this forum and reading and helping others, that I awakened to the fact that what other people did and said reflected on them; what I did and said reflected on me."
I have learned patience and tolerance of all people today, I have learned how to live and let live, and I also know you cant control people, places, or things.
I just wanted to share this, sometimes people thinks their way is the only right way, and this is so not the truth, everyone is different, and we all recovery in different ways. What might be right for me, may not be right for you, and we can agree to disagree.
And yes I do know today, the world does not revolve around me, and this was very hard for me to see when I was early in recovery, and it has made me very humble just becoming aware of this, and I can live a more peaceful existence.
Happy Friday Everyone, go and do something fun this weekend, get away from your recovery for a little while.
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