Quieting Our Minds--We Need To Hear Our Bodies
Mar 15, 2014 7:58:17 GMT -8
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Post by Loving My Life on Mar 15, 2014 7:58:17 GMT -8
I know when I first got to recovery for alcohol, this sounded so foreign to me, but my thoughts were going in a thousand different directions, my life was a mess of my own making. I was in constant turmoil because I use to try control people, and make them act like I wanted them to act. This would cause me a lot of pain, it also cause me to bend myself into a pretzel people pleasing, because I thought people would be there for me and not reject me. What I know today, a lot of these people that I was wanting in my life, are really not healthy people to begin with, but I could not see this, nor could I hear my gut trying to tell me to step away from the fire.
I learn how to meditate, only 3 minutes at first, but with time my mind did slow down, and I added more time as I could sit still for longer periods of time without thinking of anything. I know when I first started doing this, I could feel all of the tension in my body, from my head and neck all the way down to my toes.
This is such a valuable tool in recovery and it is free, you can do meditation and yoga in the privacy of your home as long as you can find a quiet spot for 30 minutes a day, shut out the monkey chatter in your head, and you will soon be able to hear what your body is telling you.
I have no problem today, removing unhealthy people from my life, I can feel all of the tension rising up in my body now, and this is a healthy red flag to let me know this is not where I need to be, whereas before I would try to put myself there anyway, without much thought, and this only cause me a lot of pain, because these people did not care anything about me in the first place, and this still happens in recovery as well. There are still a lot of unhealthy people in recovery also, but when we really get in tune with our bodies, and taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves, we will not want this in our life anymore.
We just have to become aware of why our relationships are not working as well, maybe they are only for a season, and it will teach us something through the process, we will know what we do not want in a relationship, stop trying to force a solution, and let things unfold naturally.
Don't try to force people to be in your life, who really are not suppose to be there in the first place, we don't always know what is best for us, especially when we are new in recovery, and we are trying to get to know ourselves for the first time in our life, what you think is healthy today, just might turn your stomach tomorrow, we are evolving in our recovery, and as we get healthy, our friends and poas will change as well, and what we use to think was acceptable in our lives, we will start to realize this is not acceptable any longer.
And this is ok, change is what this is all about, it does not matter what anyone else thinks, this is your life now, and you have to make your own life and your own happiness, regardless of what anyone else thinks. People will try to tell you, you are not any fun anymore, and they will try to manipulate you along the way to do things they want you to do, this is a positive red flag, they you are doing the right thing now. So keep doing what is right for your life now.
Get in tune with yourself today, it is a priceless gift that you will not regret.
Hugs
I learn how to meditate, only 3 minutes at first, but with time my mind did slow down, and I added more time as I could sit still for longer periods of time without thinking of anything. I know when I first started doing this, I could feel all of the tension in my body, from my head and neck all the way down to my toes.
This is such a valuable tool in recovery and it is free, you can do meditation and yoga in the privacy of your home as long as you can find a quiet spot for 30 minutes a day, shut out the monkey chatter in your head, and you will soon be able to hear what your body is telling you.
I have no problem today, removing unhealthy people from my life, I can feel all of the tension rising up in my body now, and this is a healthy red flag to let me know this is not where I need to be, whereas before I would try to put myself there anyway, without much thought, and this only cause me a lot of pain, because these people did not care anything about me in the first place, and this still happens in recovery as well. There are still a lot of unhealthy people in recovery also, but when we really get in tune with our bodies, and taking care of ourselves and loving ourselves, we will not want this in our life anymore.
We just have to become aware of why our relationships are not working as well, maybe they are only for a season, and it will teach us something through the process, we will know what we do not want in a relationship, stop trying to force a solution, and let things unfold naturally.
Don't try to force people to be in your life, who really are not suppose to be there in the first place, we don't always know what is best for us, especially when we are new in recovery, and we are trying to get to know ourselves for the first time in our life, what you think is healthy today, just might turn your stomach tomorrow, we are evolving in our recovery, and as we get healthy, our friends and poas will change as well, and what we use to think was acceptable in our lives, we will start to realize this is not acceptable any longer.
And this is ok, change is what this is all about, it does not matter what anyone else thinks, this is your life now, and you have to make your own life and your own happiness, regardless of what anyone else thinks. People will try to tell you, you are not any fun anymore, and they will try to manipulate you along the way to do things they want you to do, this is a positive red flag, they you are doing the right thing now. So keep doing what is right for your life now.
Get in tune with yourself today, it is a priceless gift that you will not regret.
Hugs