What Is Artificial Emoting???
Mar 22, 2014 7:18:03 GMT -8
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Post by Loving My Life on Mar 22, 2014 7:18:03 GMT -8
I was reading some of my old daily meditation books this morning, and I came across this and I wanted to share with everyone.
This comes from the Hazelden Meditation, Answers In The Heart:
It is not our exalted feelings, it is our sentiments that build the necessary home.
When we felt high because of our addictions, we let out our emotions in extravagant, exalted ways, and we thought, we were getting in touch with our feelings. But in fact, we were only getting in touch with our high; our real feelings were forgotten and unused. And after awhile we discounted our real feelings altogether, in favor of our artificial emoting.
Part of our healing process is the rediscovery of deep reservoirs of feeling that have always been part of our inheritance but that have become dammed up and thwarted by our addictions. WE have been operating on false sentiments and affections. Our disease has turned us away from our true selves.
When we say, in the Second Step, that we can be restored to sanity, we are talking about our true feelings, among other things. As a result of our program, we will find that once again we can laugh and cry and express sorrow and anger and joy. The dam has burst; we are released from the killing power of our addiction.
I am leaving to distinguish between the false exaltation that comes from my addiction and true feelings that come directly from my heart.
We have to be able to feel how we feel, and we have to be able to stand up for ourselves, regardless of the outcome. If we don't like something, we say this, and we don't try to change ourselves or another person to make the pieces fit. It is okay if the relationship does not work out, at least you stood up for yourself, and said what you wanted. This is progress.
To Thine Own Self Be True
This comes from the Hazelden Meditation, Answers In The Heart:
It is not our exalted feelings, it is our sentiments that build the necessary home.
When we felt high because of our addictions, we let out our emotions in extravagant, exalted ways, and we thought, we were getting in touch with our feelings. But in fact, we were only getting in touch with our high; our real feelings were forgotten and unused. And after awhile we discounted our real feelings altogether, in favor of our artificial emoting.
Part of our healing process is the rediscovery of deep reservoirs of feeling that have always been part of our inheritance but that have become dammed up and thwarted by our addictions. WE have been operating on false sentiments and affections. Our disease has turned us away from our true selves.
When we say, in the Second Step, that we can be restored to sanity, we are talking about our true feelings, among other things. As a result of our program, we will find that once again we can laugh and cry and express sorrow and anger and joy. The dam has burst; we are released from the killing power of our addiction.
I am leaving to distinguish between the false exaltation that comes from my addiction and true feelings that come directly from my heart.
We have to be able to feel how we feel, and we have to be able to stand up for ourselves, regardless of the outcome. If we don't like something, we say this, and we don't try to change ourselves or another person to make the pieces fit. It is okay if the relationship does not work out, at least you stood up for yourself, and said what you wanted. This is progress.
To Thine Own Self Be True
.. it gives me hope.