2. A date is JUST a date. Learn to put dates into perspective. A date is not romantic, it is not your future, it is not love, it is not a dreamy Hollywood story of passion and ardor. And while a date may have elements of all those things IF there’s chemistry and attraction, don’t get too hung up on the chemistry and attraction. A date is a meeting. Someone finds you physically attractive (or you find them physically attractive, or both), and they want to get to know you a bit more. They want to talk to you, maybe they even want to kiss you at the end of the night. Who knows! Whatever the case, treat it like a meeting. It might be fun but it might be awkward; it might make you happy, but it might make him never want to call back. Who knows! Your first date will most likely not look like The Notebook. WHen you meet up with someone for the purpose of getting to know them, and vice versus, you have to try and remove the romantic element, otherwise, you leave yourself open to fantasy and high expectations, which brings me to tip #3…
Last Edit: Apr 2, 2014 5:06:05 GMT -8 by LovelyJune
Post by Jacarandagirl on Apr 1, 2014 16:01:22 GMT -8
Yay! That's a huge breakthrough paisley. Enjoying the dating! Not angsting and waiting by the phone afterwards. Oh, thank-you god! (sorry, getting a bit carried away, it's my own hallelujah moment too)
"You deserve better than something that may be comfortable for you but you already know doesn't work and that you'll be complaining about soon enough and hoping that something or someone else will do what you can't even do for yourself. You deserve better - you deserve change".
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