godsguy
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Post by godsguy on Oct 23, 2008 22:33:30 GMT -8
I have recently realized I used to be a very positive thinker and I helped people around me. I used to see the lighter more positive side of things, and helped my wife in the first stages of our relationship. However when you live with someone or are around someone who is constantly negative you can easily be the one influenced. Somewhere along the way I let my addiction become very strong and became weakened severely to her influence.
I feel like I have gotten a second chance at life and God's grace has rained down on me and put me back in the light. Positive thinking, once again is my first instinct. Part of me wants to stay seperated from her and part of me wants my family back together, but stronger and healthier. If I can not maintain a healthy relationship with her, then as long as I don't allow myself to become obsessive again, I will not remain in the relationship. I trust God to be my counsel and guide.
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Post by bungabali on Dec 23, 2008 22:14:26 GMT -8
I totally agree with you. I had this problem with my mother. I was very positive and she was very negative and constantly worrying about little things. We used to have so many arguements about her wanting to "vent" as she called it. I explained that it's OK to talk negatively as in the way she usually does, "we've got this bill coming up and I don't know how it's going to be paid." BUT I did not want to keep hearing about it after that. Her problem was she kept on and on about the same issues. I began to spend less time with her and when she asked why I didn't want to be around her, explained that I wanted to be around her but I couldn't because her negativity brought me down. At first she would deny that she was doing this and then I guess she started to see it for herself. She started reading more positive thinking books, ( she did this on her own) and now she is much more pleasant to be around. I believe that there are toxic people out there who negative outlook on life can bring you down. My oldest daughter and I say that "there are some people you can only love from afar."
Hope things get better. The only thing I've found that works is to work on changing yourself and don't bother trying to give them hints or etc. unless they ask, usually they'll come around but if it's too difficult for you maybe you need to remove yourself from them as much as possible.
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rain
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Post by rain on Apr 17, 2009 16:23:51 GMT -8
thanks for sharing this. as for me, i am generally a positive thinking person. my colleagues said that i was a positive fireball in the office, until i got into love addiction and everything changed. i became grumpy and jealous all the time, hatred came in to me in every girl that flirts with him. now that i have realized all these and in recovery, i'm just so glad that i'm gaining back my ownself and working on making me whole, positive-thinking again.
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Post by dawnbelieves on Apr 20, 2009 12:48:25 GMT -8
Yes, there are definitely toxic people out there. My mother used to be one also. I had some friends like that also. I can't be around people that are so constantly negative. It affects me badly. Be Blessed, ~Dawn~
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Survivor
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Post by Survivor on Jul 5, 2012 15:16:08 GMT -8
As long as there is life there is hope. It's not yet over until it's over. I'm optimistic and believe things happen for a reason. Second chance causes me to become more optimistic. For those who are not positive I'm sorry for them. Life is good!
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