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Fear
Apr 24, 2015 0:55:33 GMT -8
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Post by ~w~ on Apr 24, 2015 0:55:33 GMT -8
I feel afraid to be alone, out off relationship. I tend to be busy and do a lot of activities with kids. On the other side I have fear of being singke , not to have love , relationships. I do not have a therapist I have to wait for long time. I tend to think maybe I need to work more hours and have no time for myself . My home is lonely place . I don't know why I writte all this..
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Fear
Apr 24, 2015 1:54:53 GMT -8
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Post by LovelyJune on Apr 24, 2015 1:54:53 GMT -8
It's good to get it out onto "paper" if you know what I mean. And this fear of being alone is VERY common. Many people feel this way. But...you're facing it and your dealing with it. SO...good for you! Aside from a relationship (and your kids) what is it that you love the most? It may take some digging into your past to answer this question. But, once you do, go to it. Let that interest guide you through your loneliness.
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Post by CodepNomore on Apr 24, 2015 3:18:52 GMT -8
Hi ~w~, What has been helping me to have courage instead of fear is knowing and trusting my HP. I don't put my confidence on a relationship outside of me nor do I put my security, satisfaction in the love of another person or having sex. I know the truth that having sex or a relationship with someone is not the real answer to loneliness, fearfulness, discontentment, etc. But it is the perfect love of God that drives out all kinds of fear. And loving God makes you love and respect yourself too. Be patient, he is not finished with you yet. You will get there too. Meanwhile, see the beauty of each day and thank him for every possible thing that comes to you by grace alone. You can also make your home his dwelling place, where he can bless you with love, peace, and joy... New day, new hope. Each day brings with it a second chance for a better life.
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Post by ~w~ on Jun 1, 2015 13:25:38 GMT -8
Hello codepnomore, only saw your message lol. I was wondering how are you doing and just skipped through your messages . That's how i found it.thank you for answer. I stopped prying for reason I though that God send me poa for a reason?! Silly I guess... I just more miserable than happy. My fear comes up as panic attack form. But it's passes away so nothing serious. How are you codepnomore ?
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Post by ~w~ on Jun 1, 2015 13:35:15 GMT -8
It's good to get it out onto "paper" if you know what I mean. And this fear of being alone is VERY common. Many people feel this way. But...you're facing it and your dealing with it. SO...good for you! Aside from a relationship (and your kids) what is it that you love the most? It may take some digging into your past to answer this question. But, once you do, go to it. Let that interest guide you through your loneliness. . Hello Lovely June, thank you for suggestions . I really wanted to be a dancer, but I never really went for it. I do exercises ( bit of kickboxing aerobics), at home and thinking maybe to start some Zumba . ? Also I love books, was crazy about love and relationship drama . But I cannot continue on this one because it's not real life . I d love to paint as well. But somehow I feel I am not good enough, the pictures are not perfect! ... I love nature, animals, driving, traveling , new ppl coutures, architecture. Thank you for encouraging and supporting me! It means a world to me( have tears in my eyes now) ... I did not recieved messages to my email and for some time felt that no one cares for me... I blame the email lol thank you .
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Fear
Jun 13, 2015 11:31:58 GMT -8
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Post by CodepNomore on Jun 13, 2015 11:31:58 GMT -8
Hello codepnomore, only saw your message lol. I was wondering how are you doing and just skipped through your messages . That's how i found it.thank you for answer. I stopped prying for reason I though that God send me poa for a reason?! Silly I guess... I just more miserable than happy. My fear comes up as panic attack form. But it's passes away so nothing serious. How are you codepnomore ? Nice to hear from you again! I am fine thanks for asking. I hope you are fine too. There is nothing wrong if you think God sent your POA. What counts is how you handle whoever/whatever comes your way. There are two types of fear. One is factual and protective like if it is dangerour to cross when there are cars at full speed, etc. But the fear that is baseless and just due to lack of information and it's self-inflicted is the one we must avoid or fight against. And the fear of God drives out all kinds of (negative) fear. So I hope that helps. Just one day at a time.
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