Affirmations

"Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily."

~ Tia Walker

What we affirm to ourselves becomes our reality, because it's what we're choosing to see. Is the glass half empty or is it half full? When we affirm that it's half empty, we see lack and limitation in our life; when we see it as half full, we see a life of possibility. And when we see the glass of equal parts water and air as completely full, we affirm a life of abundance. Do you affirm yourself daily? Are you willing to take a leap and state in the affirmative what you choose to see in yourself, even when those affirmations hit the most shameful places inside you? If you can't affirm in yourself what you choose and what you love, you won't be able to receive love from your beloved.

Once you become more comfortable affirming yourself, you can begin to affirm your partner. Look past your petty preferences ("I don't like his haircut" or "I don't like that dress on her") and see that person with loving and understanding--with your god eyes. Affirm your partner's beauty, sexuality, body, and soul. Melt into a sensuality of recognition for who your partner really is. In this way your affirmations about what you love in yourself and in your partner actually create a reality that's genuinely open to and supportive of the richest possibilities.

Make a list of the qualities you want to embody, then turn that list into personal affirmations you speak daily--into "I am" statements made in the here-and-now: "I am beautiful, whole and complete just as I am."

Ask your partner to make his or her own list, then share your lists with one another.

Take turns affirming each other using the lists you've made for yourselves.



From Susan . . . While in withdrawal [no contact] use this same method on project negative thoughts onto the PoA. I call this aversion therapy.

Self Fullfilling Prophecy [60's term]

A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.

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