Hello, I would like to talk about panic attacks . Has anyone have some thing . May panic attacks started when I had road accident, was hit on zebra crossing about 10 years ago. Same year I started to suffer from vegetodistonia ( body constantly shakes), fear of death , heard to breath. The last episode of diatonia appeared this year when I had fight with poa and he though I was pretending. I had really strong emotions and couldn't deal with them in my head. Poa pulled my hair , it was about grilling jealousy from me. I had no medications or I haven't talked about if with anybody . There is no medication except to relax. I have slight panic attacks, or feeling that something bad will happens. I feel sick to my stomach, out of air and heart beats really fast. It's all due to fear of being alone.
I have had "generalized anxiety disorder" since the seventh grade. They used to send me home because I saw stars.
Most of my panic attacks today come from my PTSD. I could go on and on about the triggers. Nightmares about deformed babies. The dark. Getting lost. Certain people. Being ignored.
I tread the anxiety with Paxil. I treat the panic attacks with positive thinking and prayer. The panic, for me, stems from the past, so the treatment for me is to bring myself back to the present or the future. I call new friends. I think about exciting events coming up. This is called cognitive behavioral therapy addressed in David Burns book, Feeling good.
Good luck to you wateerlili. I know how disabling this is. I rarely go out because when I get anxious these days in public my "outer child" [protector] comes out and she is a "situational narcissist."
Thank you for your reply Susan. It is scary because I think sometimes I am narcissist and for some reason it really scares me.
When you are neglected or abused as a child you either become a "people pleaser" or an angry survivor. The middle child usually uses anger as a coping mechanism. This sometimes stays around in adulthood and we become situational narcissists. See my article above and on my website. I have just learned from my friend Susan Anderson, that this is our "outer child" who is there to protect the fragile "inner child." The outer child is a gatekeeper and projector. When someone ignores or hurts the inner child, the outer child gets angry and lashes out. They choose "fight" rather then the "flight" of the codependent personality type. This is a description of me. My wounded inner child cries. Her name is Susie. My outer child is named Gretchen. She lashes out.
We must try to control our outer child without shaming her or abandoning her. This is tricky because we usually dislike our temper. But this is the cross we bear. There is no cure. Just progress toward controlling the anger and lashing out at others.
The middle child . . .
Years ago I as at the bus stop. Next to me was a woman holding a baby sitting next to a ten year old child and a five year old child. The baby was happy being held. The ten year old was happy to be coloring a picture. The five year old was hysterical and crying, "Mommy, mommy, please hold me." Watching this I finally understood the dilemma of the middle child.