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Post by starchild on Jul 6, 2015 18:18:35 GMT -8
I am in complete turmoil, day two of LC. It's chaos, fear and devastation. So I decided to find her to comfort her.
I want to call her Rosie. I tend to call her "sweet child" because as a child no one ever used terms of endearment with me. She came to me at about 9 years old.
She looked withdrawn, and nervous from anxiety. I asked her how she felt. She seemed in agony that our "friend" my POA is mad at her and doesn't want to play with her anymore. Her eyes were puffy and she could barely talk with out crying.
I asked her how it made her feel
She said he doesn't love me anymore. Nobody loves me. Everybody leaves me. He is mad at me because I'm bad and it's my fault. I want him and I want him now! She really started to throw a fit like a three year old with a toy taken away. She seemed panicked enough ton run away to find him and beg him.
I calmed her down and said "i'm here, and I love you" you have friends and family who love you too. We are never going to leave you.
She wants to know if he is going to forgive her and come back as friends.
I told her I don't know but if not, she will be ok because I will take care of her the way he did.
She seemed calmer but a little skeptical.
I made a small list of things I'd to to take care of her today and I actually did them.
But it's hard. I feel so weak and I really din't feel like taking care of anything. I tried today though, first time. Is this good you think?
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Post by leahb on Jul 6, 2015 18:35:15 GMT -8
I think this is a great start.
How did you feel afterwards? The adult you?
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Post by moonlitvein on Jul 6, 2015 21:44:24 GMT -8
But it's hard. I feel so weak and I really din't feel like taking care of anything. I tried today though, first time. Is this good you think? I agree with leah. It's a great start with your inner child. It's hard at this point of time to take care of yourself or anything because of the withdrawal. But we all can give 100% guarantee of one thing. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Hang on & move towards Day 2.
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Post by SeasonsChange on Jul 9, 2015 16:00:23 GMT -8
That's awesome starchild it's so wonderful to be able to comfort our inner child. I have found that with time she/he grows more mature and understanding of the way things are and how to work as a team instead of opposing us.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 10, 2015 11:58:12 GMT -8
That's awesome starchild it's so wonderful to be able to comfort our inner child. I have found that with time she/he grows more mature and understanding of the way things are and how to work as a team instead of opposing us.
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