David Richo says before the self-help term "love addiction" came along, female love addicts were diagnosed with BPD, but not everyone. The DSMIV disorders for love addicts are attachment disorder, erotomania, BPD and sometimes Narcissim [OJ Simpson for example]. They do not recognize codependency or love addiction. These terms come from the self-help community who they disdain [see Stanton Peele].
I don't have time to go over my story again, but Susan Anderson now calls the rage of BPD our "Outer Child." I now use this term. My inner child is codependent and her name is Susie. My outer child is Gretchen and she is a situational narcissist. [See my website articles.}
I just wanted to say that I also have a diagnosis of BPD, after pushing for it last year I finally got an official diagnosis.
I wonder how much of it is BPD/ how much is love addiction. BPD is after all only a diagnostic label applied to a certain set of behaviours/characteristics.
I've read a lot about BPD and am familiar with Marsha Linehan's work around DBT etc. I follow a 12 step programme through AA and wonder if this is an effective alternative to DBT or if both work best in tandem .. just thoughts ...
Wanted to say hello anyway, as know how tough having this diagnosis is. I am still coming to terms with it.
thank you for your post about BPD. I had never heard or focused on this term, although I have struggled with depression for most of my life and been working with a psychiatrist for about 10 years on it. Just this week my SLAA sponsor suggested i might have BPD. Some of the symptoms do look accurate and I am going to get myself evaluated for this at a hospital program that specializes in this in January (there is a waiting list).
Not sure how I feel about this, but at this point I am desperate and grateful for any clue that might help me cure my love addiction that manifests as almost obsessive thoughts about POA/s. They are not really "obsessive" really, they don't feel like obsessions, but they persist in my daily life now for years. I am definately not a violent or rageful person and have never done anything to harm anyone ever. But during the course of this love addiction over the past couple of years I have had plenty of suicidal ideation though I don't think I would ever do anything about it, it is, nonetheless, obviously, disconcerting. I also have moments where thoughts of mostly my parents, sister, or the one POA I did have a relationship with, kind of overwhelm me with anger.
Since BPD is new to me, can you tell me, what is the therapeutic approach, what is the cure? Of course I asked my doctor I work with on depression about this, and it is his opinion that I don't have BPD, but I think perhaps he might be wrong. Of course all of these words are just diagnoses, and who cares about that in comparison to what we all want, freedom from pain and suffering. But any routes you might know that work for people who have or suspect they might have BPD would be appreciated.