Post by safiya on Aug 4, 2015 3:01:27 GMT -8
Wondering if anyone else is feeling a similar conflict of interests?
I go to AA and am very grateful to AA as it has (so far) kept me off alcohol, a day at a time.
However - am coming out of meetings sometimes feeling very frustrated, and at times more than that, angry even.
I feel that the 12 steps of AA are good for the alcoholic mind set that I have, but they can also be quite damaging in parts for my love addict/adult child self to deal with.
When you've grown up in a dysfunctional environment low self esteem is often the result .. as Susan said in another thread, with regards to step four for love addicts: '' Love addicts, on the other hand, need more ego and self-esteem. '' - precisely.
I sometimes feel that AA, and some of the things said there, can actually be damaging for some alcoholics who are also cross addicted (love addiction/co-dependency etc) and who are probably also adult children who have grown up being shamed and not having their emotions validated.
I stress that I am not being ungrateful to AA, and that I acknowledge that this is my issue to grapple with, not theirs, but I'd really like to hear if anyone else has felt/feels/experienced similar as it is affecting me and I'm holding back from people in AA for fear of being really torn to pieces.
Any helpful thoughts or feedback on this would be really welcomed. Thankyou x
I go to AA and am very grateful to AA as it has (so far) kept me off alcohol, a day at a time.
However - am coming out of meetings sometimes feeling very frustrated, and at times more than that, angry even.
I feel that the 12 steps of AA are good for the alcoholic mind set that I have, but they can also be quite damaging in parts for my love addict/adult child self to deal with.
When you've grown up in a dysfunctional environment low self esteem is often the result .. as Susan said in another thread, with regards to step four for love addicts: '' Love addicts, on the other hand, need more ego and self-esteem. '' - precisely.
I sometimes feel that AA, and some of the things said there, can actually be damaging for some alcoholics who are also cross addicted (love addiction/co-dependency etc) and who are probably also adult children who have grown up being shamed and not having their emotions validated.
I stress that I am not being ungrateful to AA, and that I acknowledge that this is my issue to grapple with, not theirs, but I'd really like to hear if anyone else has felt/feels/experienced similar as it is affecting me and I'm holding back from people in AA for fear of being really torn to pieces.
Any helpful thoughts or feedback on this would be really welcomed. Thankyou x
