Post by moonlitvein on Nov 22, 2015 23:49:02 GMT -8
I do two things. One is simply sit & feel it. That's it. Telling the feeling "Okay you can stay" After a while it goes by itself. If you let it be instead of suppressing or letting it run amok it reaches an unbearable peak but then goes down. That's what feeling our feelings is all about. It's kind of like saying "Oh okay ... period pain... that will be there...let it be for a while like spasms. It'll pass.
The other technique is to journal but not through controlled writing but just penning the thought you are feeling right this second. Doesn't matter if the language is not shaping up right. That's not important. Let the heart & the pen do the work for a while & not the head. It's kind of like stream of consciousness. Google it once.
Hope u'll be better in sometime or a day Love MV
"Fully functioning people are not interested in doing things better than everyone else; they look inward for their life goals....Look inward rather than at how you measure up to the other guy" - Pulling Your Own Strings by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer.
How do I better feel my emotions and honour them? I don't know how.
I really stuffed a lot of emotions and dissociated from this pain for a long time. Even through my training, I had to hold this part of me aside lest it give way to problems in every day functioning. This was during a time that I was learning about psychology and exploring feelings all the time. I made a careful partition of this painful part of me. This is not too healthy and what I suggest to begin with is compartmentalizing your grief. Not like I initially described, not to stuff or prevent from feeling. I suggest making a time and a place to experience grief. You can cry, you can scream, just try not to scare your pets.
The way I have done this is through music. I find just the saddest songs and I listen to them. Sometimes more than once. I grieve, I feel, I experience. This is not always easy for men, so I have had to pay special attention to this. It is especially socially unacceptable for men to show grief in public. It makes everyone uneasy. In this way, through the music, I can let it out and then the rest of the time my function can be improved. To be clear, when the song is over (or when you are done listening for your allotted time), it's go time, or sleep time, or anything time, but it is not grief time.
Is this a permanent strategy? No. More advanced techniques for processing emotions will come from journaling (reflecting on yourself), conversational reflection (dialogue with someone who will process with you, an enlightened witness), guided meditation, all the way to "Sitting Shiva" to mourn the dead (conversation and reflection through God), and perhaps many many more...
When all is said and done, you experience emotions to build up a tolerance to the more intense ones. You experience your anxiety, turn it over, savor it, consider it, break it down, breathe it, survive it. You experience your sadness and explore the perimeter of the hole in your soul. This is so you may learn to survive, learn about yourself, and withstand feelings that may be debilitating if left unattended to.
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