Post by christabel on Jun 15, 2016 11:13:44 GMT -8
I'm still perusing all materials available regarding love addiction, and I am looking at Melanie Evan's info regarding reprogramming one's subconscious. She states that logical thinking has no impact on emotional belief systems. This makes me think about how, although I've completed the 12 Steps, I still didn't feel "healed" because I was just told to ignore my feelings and not let them control me, that the problem is "addicts always follow their emotions. you know what is the right thing to do, just do it." The denying of feelings seemed like a denial of a huge part of myself. Following the logic of my sponsor, I will spend the remainder of my life denying the way I feel? I think this is why I needed to search for more answers, because I wasn't at peace with my "cure."
So, my post is to get some opinions. I know you've all been exposed to different books, sites, counselors, recovery programs, etc. Have you found a way to recover without denying your feelings? Do we need to treat our feelings as something not to be trusted and follow logic? Have you found ways to reprogram or reconcile your emotions, if that make sense? I haven't tried Evan's program, but if there is a way to stop feeling the way I do regarding PoA, addiction, childhood wounds, etc. I would want to try it.
(There are only a few places I'm allowed to create a thread, I guess since I'm a newbie. Apologies if this isn't a good place for this one.)
From my personal expirience i did just ooposite i felt my feelings but i didnt act on them. Meaning i felt tge pain with out avoiding.i seat with it and let it pass me. Than i stoped beliving that my negative thoughts are real i just let them pass i dont serv them tea -as a wise zen master says