Post by shilpamary on Jun 26, 2016 21:12:10 GMT -8
All been in a good relationship with your lovable buddies. At sometimes, used to get misunderstanding in relationship. It all happens in life but don't get upset for such small things. There is way to get through life and solution for all problems...
It is so simple
From my point of view.. whatever the issues may be initiate yourself to apologize for that. They too will realize the fault in them and spontaneously they will also say sorry.. Try to solve the problems instead of dragging it.
If u feel bad to directly ask then send a message or send a sorry image and convey your apologies.
Apologizing does not always mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.
True, sometimes an apology is warrented and helpful to maintain a healthy relationship. Other times though, some of us need to learn to not apologize when we've done nothing wrong. I think it's common for a love addict to shoulder more than his or her fair share of responsibility in holding a relationship together and apologize almost as a reflex, out of fear of upsetting the other person and being abandoned.
Post by CodepNomore on Jul 1, 2016 17:34:33 GMT -8
I used to apologize all the time until I realized that it is not always, always the best thing to do so. Sometimes it could cause the other person to be insensitive, abusive. Sometimes it is motivated by people-pleasing tendency. So it depends...Perhaps, just do what's best for you with right motivation and timing.
Nevertheless, you made an excellent point here. Thanks for sharing it. I am sure many can benefit from this.
Your recovery is worth the pain of your withdrawal. Remember that "the pain you feel today will be the strength you feel tomorrow." Fantasy-based relationship is a lie. Face your reality and stay well!Kind Regards to all LAA members here, - Codepnomore
Post by Susan Peabody on Jul 2, 2016 7:23:29 GMT -8
I had a dear friend once who was a chronic apologizer. She would apologize for being on the planet it was so bad. She could not help herself. It was how she dealt with her fear of people. One day her boss got so annoyed that he fired her. Not only do you not have to apologize for being human. It annoys people. You are loved by God just the way you are. There is nothing, and I mean nothing to apologize for. God bless you.