Is Use of Seduction a Symptom?

i was wondering about this exact samething even i indulge in seduction

i add new pics to my profile so as to seduce my POA.

he used to give positive response i was happy

i think its part of this illness....its sick behaviour and it will backfire like hell oneday

i am sorry to hear about your daughter.

you are strong to come out of this.....

Be strong

Hi Skyblue.

For me. Personally, yes seduction is part of a ritual involved in my love addiction.
Flipping my hair in a sexy way, my eyes looking deeply, the way I walk and move my body, it's all part of seduction once I decide I have my eyes on someone and I want him to desire me and long for me.

I realized I am powerless over wanting men to desire me and it's usually the very unhealthy unavailable ones or all sorts of narcissists.

Or sometimes it would be just a bunch of them.

I had to learn for some time to not wear make up just so that I learn to love myself just as I am but years later I do feel better when I fix myself up, I guess it's for me a matter of motive.

Am I dressing up for me or for the world or for men. Is it so I feel good about myself for me and to present myself in a way that says this is me and I like me like this or is it screaming or saying "with this look I'm hoping so and so person will be drawn to me, notice me and talk to me"

I don't think is wrong to want someone's attention if you are interested in them but it's how I go about it. Is it manipulating reality to fit my goal or is is a natural way( just being me) without all that pressure and urgency or desperation to Get a result from the object of my interest.

I love my sexuality. It's something I am good at but I have used seduction as a tool so I am trying to learn how to be first a friend with someone and learn to trust etc. but that takes a long time and I only have that experience with an old male friend of 8 years. But he's 20 years older than me.
We once actually tried to have a relationship for like 2 weeks and we were both not ready and I think the age difference too wide. But I noticed because he was already a trusted friend, it was so much more natural and human.

I didn't have to use any form of seduction. I mean that's how I would love for it to be with a normal healthy relationship. Not control or neediness but just a natural give and take of two individuals expressing themselves emotional and or sexually.

I'm sorry I went a little to far off topic. Just rambling now.

But yes for me seduction is part of my LA

This all goes back to a part of childhood we call the Oedipus Experience. Around the age of 4 or 5 we are romantically attached to our fathers. To get our father's attention we just naturally flirt. I actually saw this once in the store. A man walked in with her father and to get his attention she became very seductive. She had no idea what she was doing. If the father responds she does it more until her whole identity is not based on flirting. When she grows up she continues to do this. The more attention she gets the more addicted she becomes to this kind of attention. It can lead her to all kinds of personality changes. She may feel she is only worthy if she is attractive. Sometimes girls do not do this willingly. They are groomed by a parent to flirt by being told how cute and beautiful they is. This is a trap that is hard to get out of. Learn to love yourself for your whole self. Your personality. Your kindness. Your compassion. You are more than your body. You are complete and beautiful for all kinds of reasons.

I’ve done this a LOT, in the past. It is no exaggeration to say I started in grade school.

We live in a culture that (when I was little) told girls that their looks and ability to attract men was the most important thing. In that respect, my parents were a little ahead of their time: they tried to get me to prioritize school. But they had an uphill battle, and I think ultimately were not successful. I turned out to be a LA anyway.

I forgot about seduction as a L.A. technique. That's true tho. Very often, we are so concerned about what WE want and "need" to get from a PoA that we lose sight the PoA may very well have their own thoughts, feelings and ideas aside from ours.