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Post by Susan Peabody on Jan 12, 2017 14:26:05 GMT -8
Brighter Tomorrow I heard this on the radio and started having flashbacks . . . "I am just a woman in love and will do anything to get him into my world; into my heart. . . over and over again.If you can't resist listening to love songs, sing them to your higher power. Life is a moment in space When the dream is gone It's a lonelier place I kiss the morning goodbye But down inside you know We never know why The road is narrow and long When eyes meet eyes And the feeling is strong I turn away from the wall I stumble and fall But I give you it all I am a woman in love And I do anything To get you into my world And hold you within It's a right I defend Over and over again What do I do? With you eternally mine In love there is No measure of time We planned it all at the start That you and I Live in each other's hearts We may be oceans away You feel my love I hear what you say No truth is ever a lie I stumble and fall But I give you it all I am a woman in love And I do anything To get you into my world And hold you within It's a right I defend Over and over again What do I do? I am a woman in love And I'm talking to you You know, I know, how it feels? What a woman can do It's a right I defend over and over again I am a woman in love And I do anything To get you into my world And hold you within It's a right I defend Over and over again In the play and movie, Funny Girl, that made her famous, Barbara Streisand played a love addict. To listen . . . www.metrolyrics.com/a-woman-in-love-lyrics-barbra-streisand.html
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Post by Susan Peabody on Oct 18, 2017 10:38:41 GMT -8
Here is another thread about love songs . . . loveaddictionforum.proboards.com/thread/1287/love-songsDreaming Your Life Away Dream, dream, dream, dream Dream, dream, dream, dream When I want you in my arms When I want you and all your charms Whenever I want you, all I have to do is Dream, dream, dream, dream When I feel blue in the night And I need you to hold me tight Whenever I want you, all I have to do is Dream
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2017 20:24:37 GMT -8
If you have ever found yourself, on the bathroom floor, puking your guts out, not from physical illness, but from lovesickness... If you have ever watched the sun rise with tears for the longing... You're probably been listening to Nina Simone.... For me, this stuff is a huge trigger for craving and longing, but... if you can't choose not to feel a certain way... this kind of thing can sometimes compartmentalize the grief. You can grieve while the song plays... when it's over, you put it back on the shelf to work on later.... It helps to preserve day to day function in deteriorating frames of mind.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 25, 2017 20:02:21 GMT -8
Jeff Buckley is a great singer. His songs are very emotional and sung from a male perspective. It is painfully clear that Jeff had some tremendous longings for women that treated him poorly. In 1997, Jeff walked into the water of Wolf River Harbor, on the Mississippi river, and drowned. They say it was not suicide and there were no drugs in his system, but you tell me... How much pain do you think he was in? I like to think of the vocalization he makes at about 4:19 is pretty much akin to the sound my soul makes when I despair over my POA. How full of self pity is that?! ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Oct 26, 2017 21:51:30 GMT -8
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2017 22:21:35 GMT -8
***TRIGGER WARNING*** don't watch these if you're not feeling strong'ish....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 29, 2017 22:54:21 GMT -8
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Post by Deleted on Oct 30, 2017 18:03:04 GMT -8
***TRIGGER WARNING*** Sometimes things are so bad, you just want to take a flamethrower to the ashes and continue on to the rest of this God forsaken world.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2017 19:21:17 GMT -8
I think I'm going to transfer my love from POA onto Nina Simone... Nina's just so soulful. Anyways, I'm late in the day for a Halloween Post so I'll just convey my holiday sentiment with this gem of a torch-song. I think the most important Lyric is the Emphasis Nina puts on the "Yeah, Yeah" like a period on a sentence spoken by her longing heart. ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2017 7:50:19 GMT -8
I'm brushing up in the high 7's at this second. Grief is so profound at times. Life explodes like a land mine you never saw coming.
You trip once and fall forever.
This song "holds" grief like a sponge. I cannot help but cry listening to it. You should take care. Give out grace freely and accept it gladly.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2017 5:34:06 GMT -8
After posting a lot of "sad" songs. I'm feeling slightly redemptive this moment having considered a sunrise. This one is not triggering... I wish I felt as clean a relief as the lyrics suggest is possible. I can still "feel" POA in my mental space, but that is diminishing some. P.S. The more that I think about this, feeling someone's absence is very close to feeling someone's presence. Just a little Meta-Cognition
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Post by Deleted on Nov 3, 2017 19:11:58 GMT -8
I've got an interesting one for you tonight. Recent trends in music have favored sampling old, unknown, or otherwise grossly underappreciated songs and reworking them for new styles of music. Once such song is "What More Can I Say" by The Notations. It has been sampled into a modern track by Le Gang Des Ours, called "You don't know". I'll post the modern track first. This modern track had been turned into a "meme" depicting war footage of the conflict in Chechnya. Things like shooting guns from tanks and other various gestures of wartime aggression. I think the message is clear... Love is a battlefield.
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Now, here is the full song the sample was taken from, the sentiment is much more complete
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2017 11:36:40 GMT -8
Popularized in the TV series "Breaking Bad", Apparat's track "Goodbye" provided a surreal backdrop to the nightmare that was unfolding. For some of us the nightmare has become real and we can only wish, with broken hearts, that it was all a dream...
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2017 7:13:19 GMT -8
Sometimes, in Hermeneutics, we talk about "first things". The first appearance of a thing in the Bible is often highly archetypal. So when we talk about love. First love, strong love, true... love. Love made in two on purpose so that God could be gloried in the rejoining... We should talk about Eve and Adam... This song is about Adam seeing Eve for the first time... I would not generally consider it triggering. Unless you consider Love at First Sight to be triggering.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2017 20:53:29 GMT -8
Sometimes, I feel hopeful. I see a way into the future. Music shapes my moods sometimes. When I wish to feel a certain way, I can feel more fully with strange harmonies in my ear.
When I think about Aaron Embry's "Raven´s Song", I reflect on the strength of my mind. So strong that I can choose, at times, which parts of my eager mind to feed and which to starve. I don't think this one is triggering in general... Unless you don't like Ravens.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 8, 2017 20:36:20 GMT -8
If you are sad and you want to embrace that for a time, you can listen to a group named " Low". Building off of the musical movement, appropriately named SlowCore, Low nearly defines the genre. While it never really caught traction, this group is singular in style. If depression had a sound, it would sound just like Low. I'm posting a two-for tonight. All of Low is wonderfully beautiful in the way Ophelia's peaceful gaze from the bottom of the pool of water is beautiful. The first song is more of a reflection of where I'm at personally. The second song is an example of the premeditated purposeful pace that Low sets with a payoff only a turtle can appreciate. Low was once featured at an open air concert where many bands were playing loud music. Upon requesting that the band raise their volume, they turned it down and asked the audience to come in closer to hear. With Alan Sparhawk (guitar and vocals) and Mimi Parker (drums and vocals) together as this groups, power couple, they work an emotional angle that becomes like a toothache by the end of the album. While there are good tracks, Low is best experienced by setting aside some time to listen to a whole album. I think you will be pleased with the patient progress that can be felt in this musical style. This is about as hard as it gets musically. ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2017 23:50:53 GMT -8
The Middle East is a wonderful group with a "tight" sound that incorporates a wide variety of styles. Their overall sound can best be described as "indie pop" or "indie folk". This song "Blood" seems to be about acceptance and accepting the things we have no control over.
If you are struggling with things you have no control over... than this is a ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Nov 13, 2017 3:25:37 GMT -8
Laura Viers is an American Singer/Songwriter. Her lyrics are quite compelling at times. She gives me a lot of intermediate feelings. It's clear that she has her own fantasy ideation about love and longing, grief and hope. I like to watch the sun come up most days... The new day breaking sometimes gives me hope.
I'm not sure if this is a trigger... you tell me how this song makes you feel.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 14, 2017 19:09:54 GMT -8
Dua Lipa is not my personal "cup of tea". This song comes recommended by Ethlie Ann Vare via her Twitter feed. I would be remiss if I did not include items like this. This singer obviously draws upon the social nature of women to promote a solidarity message. While I would never advocate for men who use women, I would advise women that relational violence against men is not a constructive response to the breakdown in relations between the sexes. The lyrics of this song are too long to post. Here is a link to the lyricsI don't know... Sometimes what might be triggering to one person, may be empowering to another.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 17, 2017 2:12:26 GMT -8
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In terms of musical style, compare to Tom Tom club
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Post by Deleted on Nov 18, 2017 1:29:26 GMT -8
Music is multicultural and so is Love. Lust, Love and Limerence is a universal human experience. I don't know anything about this artist apart from they are Japanese and this is a song from the 80's I'm adding a two-for at the bottom. Both songs deal with "plastic" or "fake" "love". ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Nov 20, 2017 7:12:11 GMT -8
A different kind of Love song.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 21, 2017 14:08:22 GMT -8
Sometimes new music is a surprise. I know nothing about "timmies" or "Shiloh", but this jam is sweet and short. Physical love is so important at times. That makes this a... ***TRIGGER WARNING***
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2017 14:10:54 GMT -8
We all know Peter Gabriel from the band Genesis. He has a robust solo career and has written many songs about love and his own therapy. This sing is kind of sappy but it's really romantic. I'm not sure if that is triggering. I find myself thinking about the things I first loved about my partner. Those things that lead me to propose marriage were simple and not very complex. I think it's safe to say that I believe in the beauty of natural marriage.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2017 8:16:29 GMT -8
Otis Redding has some amazingly soulful torch songs... He reminds us of how potent longing for someone can be.
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Post by havefaith on Nov 30, 2017 8:51:29 GMT -8
...He reminds us of how potent longing for someone can be."
Which is precisely why I am not interested (as a recovering Love Addict) in listening to music such as this. For me, it's analogous to a recovering addict walking into an opium den or an alcoholic walking through the aisles of the local liquor store and waxing poetic about his/her longing for drug/alcohol of choice. Probably healthier to walk into an AA or NA meeting!
I won't throw myself into temptation's path with triggers that are easily avoided. For me -- not worth it.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2017 13:28:34 GMT -8
Music is very important to me. There are many myths about love and relationships that arise from popular music. Sometimes music can compartmentalize these feelings. For people that have trouble expressing themselves, music can be a way to get in touch with their feelings.
Love and relationship addiction is a little different from substances in that people, in general, need relationships with other people to thrive and survive. Learning about triggers and social myths, as well as experiencing the emotions surrounding grief fully, is part of recovery.
For me, listening to music is almost a type of systematic desensitization. When I am shopping or at a restaurant, I will not be sent into a panic attack at the sound of "our song". Instead, I have built up a bit of a tolerance.
I think it's great that you took a moment to respond. I value honest reactions and not everyone is the same. This thread is about love songs and love addiction. Other threads contain different subjects. I'm certainly not going to stop listening to music. Music is one of life's joy's. Even sad love songs give us an appreciation for when times are truly good. If you insist, I will stop posting them here. I don't want to be a stumbling block for anyone.
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Post by Susan Peabody on Nov 30, 2017 14:49:31 GMT -8
This is so true. Before I met Frank I really did not appreciate music very much. I was an intellectual and liked to talk a lot. He was quiet and did not say much. He is a professional drummer who used to play with Etta James ands Ray Charles. I asked him one day if he loved me but he did not say anything. But that night at one of his performances he sang a love song and dedicated it to me. That was his way of expressing his feelings. Frank is not like anybody I was looking for. We are actually the opposite in many regards. But God knew best and all I had to do was take a leap of faith.
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